Rules are meant to be broken... or so they say.
I have many personal mantras I live by, including:

*Love is a two-way street. I dont believe in unrequited love... love is a very intimate connection between two people-and must be felt by both parties. I cannot love someone who doesnt love me back.

*No sex without love

Now I'm trying to figure out how many of my own rules I am breaking... and why its okay all of a sudden. If I love a man... and he tells me he loves me.. then things are fine. When the very same man I love says he "has feelings" for me... then that is not okay. How did I get bumped from love to feelings? Uggggggggggh feelings. If he doesnt love me anymore... then the connection is broken... it is no longer a 2-way street.

And to be honest? Im pretty lame in the sack. My bf and I had sex the other day... and with all these doubts in my head, I was just self conscious and anxious... and I was just painfully aware that it wasnt loving or passionate or pure... I have bitemarks on my legs, back and stomach.. and I hate it. I cant fake anything... Its so gut-wrenching when hes like "how does that feel?" and it feels like he doesnt care about me anymore... so I cant be like "oh yes, yessss it feels so GOOD!"... no.. Im more like "Its okay."

Im so used to loving, passionate sex. When I love the man, I go on auto-pilot.. and everything is just great, and better than great. When there is no love... well.. then its just work.. and that sucks.

What is it about being brutally honest that is so appealing, yet sickening? I feel like everyone is seeking out a truth, including myself... but personally... I am almost always disappointed when I stumble across it.

Truth hurts, plain and simple.
Needless to say, Im hurting

sorry to hear of your hurt.....may be it would do you a better justice to remain somewhat of a secret or a mystery. honesty is the gratest thing to live by,but becareful,not all live their lives that way........be mindful of your wall, for protection.......works for me!

Starryeyed,

I'm sorry for the pain you are going through, but the fact of the matter is that lieing to yourself is even worse than the truth! That's not a road you want to go down....

You deserve to be loved and cherished ~ THAT is the truth! Settle for nothing less, hun.

Why doesnt he love me anymore?


I've never fallen out of love before

So you are saying you don't love him anymore either, if I read your post right.

Correct?

I cant love someone who doesnt love me back.

..but I think if I didnt love him, it wouldnt be so painful to think about.

frickum.....no one likes to hear it but we can all be replaced!

And it wont be the last time, either.

Love and honesty do not mix . .

ouch...lol

I disagree vehemently. If you are really in love then there is nothing you should not be able to tell your loved one. That is if the love is real. If you are in lust or "have feelings for me" as starryeyed put it, as many guys seem to be, then you are not even being honest with yourself when you say you love someone. If you can't be honest with yourself then you need to reevaluate what it is you are looking for in your relationships in the first place, because you are going to end up hurting someone else like starryeyed has been. That's not cool guys.