I had a conversation last night about pre-marital sex. When I asked the guy how he felt about it, he stated the he agreed with it as long as it is in a loving relationship. A loving commited relationship for which its love has been tested by fire. Tested by fire meaning it is a strong and true love.

Do you think if more people would adapt this idea, that overall we would be a more content people? Would there be less emotional ups and downs in relationships? Would we have more fulfilling relationships?

I think that sex and love are two different things and to confuse the two gets you the most problems.

Agreed, however, sex without love is acrobatics, sex with love is divine....

But I'm not ruling out one or the other anytime soon...Oh wait, that would mean I'd have to have some...any time soon...

Lily I LOVE acrobatics!!!!

changed my mind

I agree totally. Too many people equate sex with love without realizing sex with a f**k buddy or whatever is nothing compared to making love with someone you truly love. The emotions you experience in a loving relationship are what make it great rather than "feeling good". If you are in it just for the physical pleasure you should beasking yourself if you really want a "relationship" or just a regular booty call.

thank you everyone for stating your opinion, its good to see different peoples prespective.

big diffrence in sex end love..the enjoy of sex 4 few time..but enjoy end feeling of love 4ever end end of this world..sex is not needfull 4 life...it is only 4 make close relationship.

Hmmmm. Well, sex is sacred to me. I went two years without having sex simply because, well, I was annoyed with it. I had opportunities and such, but nothing ever made me want to have sex. Goof can admit......he is not a manwhore.

Now, when I met my girlfriend (we met on JSH and are together, so this site does work people) I knew there was a connection between us, and it has grown alot over the past 6 months. Yet, while I was tempted to have sex, I wanted to make sure that both of us were ready for it. She actually felt the same, so it really did work out well. Now I can't keep my hands off her.

Goof that is so sweet and I am glad that there are still guys like you out there. Gives the rest of us something to look forward to.

Unfortunately for Europeans living in the USA our ideologies are different than here in the USA. While it appears that Love/ Sex issues are interwoven so confusingly for people,here, there are well defined thinkings behind the European way of life. Yet where I live is the center of Porn Production in this wide world which make USA a paradox for these two subject

Yeah. When single, I am an angel. When with my lady, I am a nympho. I love it!

Nothing wrong with that

Well I have very mixed thoughts on this. I think like living together you don't know someone until you do. I feel the same about sex.......You could kiss and hug and cuddle and not do the deed....Wait until you get married and hate that person sexually....And if you think oh I love him it will be great I don't think this to be the case. I would love my daughters to wait until they get married.....But is that realistic......can't know. I lived with their dad before and dated for 5 years before that.....

tany, I really like how open minded you are. I do think that people would have a lot less problems if they didn't get physical so early in a relationship.

I think it's best to save it for marriage really, because then you've already made that commitment to each other for the rest of your days. That is the true test IMO.

If you have sex before, even if there is commitment there at the time of it, there's no guarantee you're gonna stay together. Something could come up, and then you might end up breaking up, leaving the other person with a piece of you that you can't get back.

Obviously in a marriage, splits can and do still happen, but there's more to them there, when that's the case, then if you weren't married.

Thank you and thank you for posting.

i think if people took half the energy they spent talking about sex and why you shouldn't have it and used that energy having sex they would be to busy having sex to worry about it.


folks who were adults in the 70's had the right idea. just have sex.

I was a teen in the 70's. thats what I did.