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Topic: why is it
PragmaticMind Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 1098	Mon 06/02/08 03:09 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? It's not that they solely want us to depend on them, nor are they actually scared. They just can't fathom the fact of a woman being "secure" in area's that possibly they aren't. Some men try to use control (yet only the woman allows it to actually take place) and they do so to balance within what is unsettled. Men think women are easily trainded and/or controlled, what they don't know is, women like myself can easily tame down and control them just the same. It's attitude of unrealistic thinking and unbalanced characteristics. When someone (man or woman) seems "frightened" or "intimidated" in whatever respect, it's up to us to show and teach otherwise. It's truly not that difficult if they're interested in seeking in someone what you're pursuing yourself. Someone needs to be the smarter one to turn ones lack of expectation (or standards set too high), confidence, security, etc. around to be reachable and worth associating with.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 06/02/08 03:10 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? Im in terror

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Mon 06/02/08 03:10 PM
LOL! Actually... I'm sick and tired of needy, whiney, co-dependant girls. It seems that the only women that are attracted to me... are the ones that need something. The thing is... I don't offer anything. It's always refreshing to meet someone that can hold their own. that is refreshing to hear er read i mean I'm a good guy and I want to be commited...or commit...yeah thats it i know a good psych ward lmao no time for romance now my dear....I have places to go

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Mon 06/02/08 03:10 PM
I think we all want to feel needed to some extent...outside of the bedroom, that is.

naturalstyle Joined Sat 04/26/08 Posts: 405	Mon 06/02/08 03:11 PM
I love strong independent women they rock

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 06/02/08 03:11 PM
LOL! Actually... I'm sick and tired of needy, whiney, co-dependant girls. It seems that the only women that are attracted to me... are the ones that need something. The thing is... I don't offer anything. It's always refreshing to meet someone that can hold their own. that is refreshing to hear er read i mean I'm a good guy and I want to be commited...or commit...yeah thats it i know a good psych ward lmao no time for romance now my dear....I have places to go lmao have a good time then

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 06/02/08 03:12 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? It's not that they solely want us to depend on them, nor are they actually scared. They just can't fathom the fact of a woman being "secure" in area's that possibly they aren't. Some men try to use control (yet only the woman allows it to actually take place) and they do so to balance within what is unsettled. Men think women are easily trainded and/or controlled, what they don't know is, women like myself can easily tame down and control them just the same. It's attitude of unrealistic thinking and unbalanced characteristics. When someone (man or woman) seems "frightened" or "intimidated" in whatever respect, it's up to us to show and teach otherwise. It's truly not that difficult if they're interested in seeking in someone what you're pursuing yourself. Someone needs to be the smarter one to turn ones lack of expectation (or standards set too high), confidence, security, etc. around to be reachable and worth associating with. i believe you have it right

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 06/02/08 03:13 PM
I got my own house my own car my own phone i don't need you for nothing,

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 06/02/08 03:15 PM
I got my own house my own car my own phone i don't need you for nothing, seems like you do need a hug

PragmaticMind Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 1098	Mon 06/02/08 03:15 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? It's not that they solely want us to depend on them, nor are they actually scared. They just can't fathom the fact of a woman being "secure" in area's that possibly they aren't. Some men try to use control (yet only the woman allows it to actually take place) and they do so to balance within what is unsettled. Men think women are easily trainded and/or controlled, what they don't know is, women like myself can easily tame down and control them just the same. It's attitude of unrealistic thinking and unbalanced characteristics. When someone (man or woman) seems "frightened" or "intimidated" in whatever respect, it's up to us to show and teach otherwise. It's truly not that difficult if they're interested in seeking in someone what you're pursuing yourself. Someone needs to be the smarter one to turn ones lack of expectation (or standards set too high), confidence, security, etc. around to be reachable and worth associating with. i believe you have it right LOL.. just when they think they're interested, they realize a woman w/ way too much insight and experience could be the end of their love life LOL "just kidding" Good luck w/ your search dear

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Mon 06/02/08 03:16 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? WE HAVE BIGGER OVARIES THEN MEN HAVE BALLS..... POINT BLANK

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 06/02/08 03:16 PM
I like the ones who are afraid of me, it keeps the riff raff to a minimum...

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 06/02/08 03:18 PM
that men seem a bit scared of strong independent women? i mean alot of men seem like they want someone who depends soley on them. i just dont get it. any ideas? WE HAVE BIGGER OVARIES THEN MEN HAVE BALLS..... POINT BLANK right on!!

rose_gammie Joined Thu 09/06/07 Posts: 96	Mon 06/02/08 03:18 PM
We scare them cuz they know we can get along without them and they need to feel needed and to know without we couldn't survive it is all about ego.

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Mon 06/02/08 03:23 PM
its the old me tarzen you jane act...just let em bang on their chests with their fists for a bit they will settle down ....eventually