After answering one of the 4 'Questions' game posts (when was the last time you kissed someone), I began thinking about what that 1st kiss after my divorce will be like.
Considering kissing someone other than my ex, initially, seemed a bit disloyal. Maybe not to the man, but more to what was so long ago. Now, I admit the notion of that 1st kiss being disloyal was fleeting & followed swiftly by more pleasant ones ...but I'm not facing that situation anytime soon. I wonder if this feeling will resurface when the opportunity for that '1st-after-divorce' kiss does arise. Anyone else have similar feelings, or am I just loyal to a fault?

Hmmm.. possibly it is not loyalty but rather safe romanticizing?

I'm sure when it comes down to the actual situation you will be fine.

I feel sometimes that my wanting to date and kiss others is betraying my fiance who passed. It's a daily reminder to myself that he made me promise to move on after he passed and fall in love again.

The first time I kissed someone after my divorce was 2 years, I also felt disloyal and sad, the first time we had sex I cried for two days, you just feel like a part of you that had healed and closed just opened back up and is dying right in front of you.

I still have kissed only one person in my life. I actually felt guilty about telling my ex I liked someone on this site until I realized I had to start living life for myself again. Will I feel guilty about kissing that person if I ever get the opportunity. Absolutely not, because if i ever get to that point then I will already know beforehand that it is both right for me, and none of my ex's business anyway. I mean, she is living with her boyfriend, but until recently was depending on me for everything emotionally and financially he was unable to give her. I finally realized she is the one who should be feeling guilty if anyone should. It took years to realize that, but now I know I can do just that.