Seems on Friday my 10 yr old cut out of school before catching his bus home (he's not liking the bus aide this year)He showed up at my work and lied to me about a broken down bus(which means he walked about 5 blocks & crossed 2 busy intersections himself)...upon calling the school I found out he fabricated some story to his teacher that he had to meet me at the office as his brother was in the hospital and he had to go with me there. So he lied to me & the teacher & snuck out of school.
He is so grounded!!...Now I have to set an appointment to see how a 5th grader is able to pull that off with no parental consent.He has never done anything like this.He's an A student...what do I say to the teacher?

wow,..hummm,..

You ask them how come they didn't contact YOU before letting this young boy out the front door.

i did th same thing when i was a kid,,,,,got my but whiped,,,,,,,,lol no big deal

If he's normally a good, well-behaved child, and he's scared or "doesn't like" the bus aide, I'd want to investigate the bus aide business first. If that's really odd behaviour for your son, there's a reason.
School is almost out, so perhaps there is an alternative quick fix until it's over.
As for what to say to the teacher, your son is the one who needs to do the talking, not you. And, he needs to make amends to the teacher, something that STICKS it in his mind, something that will impress upon him that there are consequences.
And, yes, I can't fathom in this day & age that a school would allow a child to depart campus without a note or parent/guardian, so you should address them on that.
What a mess!!! But, look for the root and nip it.

I'd have to agree totally with this response.

I know ..when I was on the phone the office lady said that should'nt have happened they have 3 contact #'s on me...BUT my son confessed that he told the teacher that I wrote him a note but he left it at home he out & out lied to his teachers face as well as mine.

It is a big deal to me...he is 10 Joe... anything could have happened on his way to my work...
but I don't know which I'm more mad about his deceit or the schools ignorance.

So I wonder if this is all about the bus thing or if there was something between leaving the school and arriving at your work.

Well first and foremost the biggest problem I see is with the school. He got out without a note-which they should have called you and ask if your son had permission to walk to your office. This message is sending out to the rest that they can come and go as they please. Second yes I would see why your son don't like this "Lady" on the bus and take it from there. Maybe she has said or done something to him so that now he doesn't like her. As for the lying he needs to face up to what he has said and done and learn from it. Good luck and hope all works out for the best...

He does not get along with the bus aide ..awhile back he was repramanded and seated at the front of the bus permanantly ( for not staying in his seat & being loud) he don't want to take the bus because of that.
He does like to be up at my office..on one hand I am glad that he came there instead of trying to walk all the way home (about a mile).

That is a pretty big whopper! I would assume it was an act of desperation driven by a pretty deep fear. Could he have a bully on the bus?

Sorry, left in the middle of posting and did not see bus aide comment. Never mind.

I was thinking the same thing. If he's got a bully, he might say anything else that covers up the fact that your little MAN is scared..

I think that you are doing the right thing with your son by making him own up to his lying. Talk to him about the safety issues of walking to your work on his own and try to calmly find out why he lied.

Go to the scholl and tell them that under no cirminstance is he to be allowed to deviate from the normal routine without a phone call from you.

I agree totally. This is what I would do, except for one thing. I would get to the bottom of why the office let him go without word from you first. This is just totally unacceptable. Too many nut jobs, etc out there. JMO.
I am very glad he's ok.

He could have been bitten by a rabid dog.

My 12 year old was caught by me lying about what him and his friends were doing. He was suppose to be playing tag with them and instead they were hunting squirrel out in the woods. I gave the same punishment as you 2 weeks grounding.
You do have 3 big problems to resolve though:
1.his lying
2.school administration incompetence
3.bus aide
I would consider the school administrations incompetence as the biggest issue that you need to resolve.

yup.. Monday I am going to request a parent-teacher conference.

I don't think it was a rabid dog....I think he is testing me! He actually thought he could get away with it....I can't wait to speak with this teacher & see exactly what he told her (he could be lying about that too)
we'll see

i admire the fact of knowing a wonderful parent like you are still out there! fact is far and few between.... you dont have the "my kid wouldnt do that" syndrome... your child will go far in life because of you.... cause he is held responsible for his own actions and that is what life is about learning that to get by in life when he gets older..

as far as the school.... what kinda crap is that? id be irate!!! but here is the thing... if i were you id tell them how it is... for they need their azz spanked! but if you do it in front of your son he may get a kick out of it.. for that part of the issue id choose to leave him out of that and not even tell him what happened in the meeting.... perhaps this needs done before your son goes in and gets his from the school for lieing...

i had a troubled son also he started at about age 5...and stuff like this would happen to me too and i learned the way of seeing him do this i guess u could say... i think he made stuff up a bit to cause the comotions to happen... and sat back and watched the chaos he had created got a thrill out of it..

im happy to say at 22 hes turned into a pretty wonderful young man...and as time goes on... more and more parents out there have that "not my child.. never would my child do that" way of parenting its just sickening if you ask me! and it causes way more problems for a good parent such as you! dont give in! dont change! its really hard when all the other kids get their way etc.... facts are you are going to have to work harder than you should because of it.. for these are the kids that your child has to "play" with ..cause most seem to be that way anymore.. im sure its worse now for you at 12 later than i was parenting..