Topic: Insecurity...
msmyka's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:49 PM

it's tough for me. i've been in 2 long term relationships... dating is... rough... plus i'm not exactly... hmmm.... generically pretty?


Do you like genercially hansome men? Guys who look like everyone else? Assuming your answer is no, think about that and turn it around. Men all like something different, and to some man you are/ will be the most beautiful woman in the world.

Totage's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:49 PM
You'll be alright. You seem pretty fun from your profile.

unique1111's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:50 PM

How do I overcome it? There's a guy I rather like... how do I fake confidence? LOL


You have to get to know yourself and KNOW you are good. Picture what you want then go get it!! It really is that simple!!

writer_gurl's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:50 PM
You can't fake confidence....Find things that are appealing about yourself and when this guy sees that you have confidence he will like it too...

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:51 PM

You'll be alright. You seem pretty fun from your profile.


aww ty! i've made some pretty good friends... but as for love hmmmm

Alterego1961's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:53 PM
If you think you're not interesting enough (not likely, but OK) then maybe you should find some new fun things to do. At the very least you'll have more fun. Maybe in the process you'll meet someone who likes those things as well. It's gotta start somewhere with a potential beau, and you never know where or when sometimes. flowerforyou

Totage's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:53 PM
See, you have friends you can't be boring. :tongue:

no photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:53 PM

If you being yourself is not good enough for someone..then that someone is not worth your time!
yeah what she said!!!!!!:smile:

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:55 PM

See, you have friends you can't be boring. :tongue:


too true... in fact most of them describe me as nuts... maybe i'm just boring online?

Alterego1961's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:56 PM


See, you have friends you can't be boring. :tongue:


too true... in fact most of them describe me as nuts... maybe i'm just boring online?


Do we seem bored to you??? I think not! :wink: :smile:

Totage's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:57 PM
Nah, I think you're worrying about it too much.

Just relax and have fun. flowerforyou

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 09:59 PM
you guys are awesome! (((JSH CREW))) flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:00 PM


See, you have friends you can't be boring. :tongue:


too true... in fact most of them describe me as nuts... maybe i'm just boring online?
Not bigsmile
I think practice is key when you've been IN relationships more than dated. Confidence in how you look and who you are are only parts of the puzzle to being confident around men...I know cause I'm only missing the last part...I think part could just be being shy of attraction.

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:03 PM
ugh this dating thing is horrible! i'm tellin' ya what! if my fiance hadn't made me PROMISE to move on after he passed i'd be a total hermit

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:05 PM

ugh this dating thing is horrible! i'm tellin' ya what! if my fiance hadn't made me PROMISE to move on after he passed i'd be a total hermit
Ouch...sorry to hear that. Been there myself. flowerforyou :heart:

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:08 PM


ugh this dating thing is horrible! i'm tellin' ya what! if my fiance hadn't made me PROMISE to move on after he passed i'd be a total hermit
Ouch...sorry to hear that. Been there myself. flowerforyou :heart:


dont be sorry, he's better now. being THAT sick at 24 was hell on him. i'm just learning to breath and take each hurdle that comes. but he told me, and i quote lol "you're my light and my life. and when i'm gone i want you to light up someone else's life". *sigh* Here's to the good that die way too young! drinker

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:12 PM



ugh this dating thing is horrible! i'm tellin' ya what! if my fiance hadn't made me PROMISE to move on after he passed i'd be a total hermit
Ouch...sorry to hear that. Been there myself. flowerforyou :heart:


dont be sorry, he's better now. being THAT sick at 24 was hell on him. i'm just learning to breath and take each hurdle that comes. but he told me, and i quote lol "you're my light and my life. and when i'm gone i want you to light up someone else's life". *sigh* Here's to the good that die way too young! drinker
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You know, could also have something to do with your confidence issue when it comes to meeting men. I think it does with me anyway...little fear of starting new...maybe little fear of being close again. Maybe?

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:21 PM
that's probably more true than i want to admit

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:22 PM

that's probably more true than i want to admit
Yeah...I'm stubborn...took me bout 10 years. laugh

AmyGurl84's photo
Sat 05/31/08 10:24 PM
Trav and I are a long story... he only passed in January... i know it seems soon to be on the market again but again... loooong story