If I were a guy I think I'd be very angry at the mother but after 18 years I'd never stop loving the child mine or not~

Dishonesty is never nice. It's also very disrespectful.

I'm not so sure I would be angry.

I think disappointed would be a better description.

Very disappointed.

And not because the kid wasn't mind. But because I wasn't given the respect of honesty.

Yes, I would be very disappointed.

So much so that it would be quite devastating to the relationship at that point.

Not so much about the actual situation, but because of the failure to trust and confide in me.

It would be the same as saying to me, "I don't trust you or know you at all".

"I don't believe in you"

"I have no faith in you"

"I really don't even like you!"

That's what I would be hearing.

Eighteen years she keep this a secret????

That's some serious mistrust.

Yes that would be very hard to handle.

But anger wouldn't be my response.

Total disappointment and disillusionment would be better descriptions of how I would feel about it.

I would feel very aliened and unloved.

But I don't think I would become angry over it.

I'm just not one to get angry. Anger never solves anything.

But I wouldn't exactly be happy about it either.

I'm not sure how I would react to be honest.

I can't imagine living with a woman for 18 years who would keep that kind of secret from me.

I just can't imagine living together with someone that I'm that far away from in spirit.

It seems to me that any woman I would become involved with would have told me that very early on.

Like before the kid was even BORN.

That would have been trust! And Love.

It's really hard to say what I would do since I really can't imagine being in that situation.

I just now that getting angry isn't going to do anyone any good.

Your spouse lies to you for 18 years and you don't see a problem with that????

Of course I see a problem with it, I was just being sarcastic. What kind of responses did they think they were going to get?

I can't even really imagine being in that scenario in the first place to be honest about it.

I've always been very open and honest in all my past relationships and the women were always completely open and honest with me too. They would know that they could tell me anything. So it's truly not something that I would personally need to deal with.

Yes it would. Not only would the mother have been dishonest with me by concealing the real story with the kid, she would have also committed adultery, as well.