I came on here a whle back thinking that I needed to make a new start with someone.

I've chatted with several nice guys and really enjoyed it, but when it really comes down to it I'm too afraid to start anything with anyone.

I'm still in love with my ex. We broke up about five months ago I'd say and I'm still not over him. We were together for four years and now it's over because I ****ed up.

How long does this feeling last?

long enough to down a bottle of whiskey

could be awhile....relax...when its right, it will happen

The feelings will last as long as you let it. Some people start to feel fine after a week, while others never quite get over their break-up.

Im sure it hasn't stopped the ex from dating....

For my ex a long time she left me and to this day she cant look at me when she talks to me. I kinda do miss her though....

well my guess would be till you find the next guy to take his spot ........keep your head up things will get better . you just gotta relize some relationships aren't meant to be ......forgive yourself for whatever you did ..........and move on

yeah...i've been trying to stupify myself so i don't have to think about it, but then as soon as a sober up it's back.

You're right it hasn't. And I have too. But I'm just having a hard time letting people in.

thanks for the replies everyone

My ex was the one the F***ed up, but I started to date again and all the Great women that I dated helped me get over her

You cannot control your feelings or what happens to you. But you CAN control how you react to it. Give yourself time to heal. There are no set rules of how long it takes to get over a broken heart. Keep talking to other people. You never know what you might find.....
Good luck!

If you honestly love someone you can never stop loving them. You can learn to move on in time. Just remember what you learn. We all only get one shot at life.

Good luck

Pick up, dust off, and start hiking. you never know where your path leads. As soon as you can do that, the pain lessens.

in time our hearts heal, but remember nothing like a lesson learned, It can take a few days to a few years forgive your self first and if he don't understand that we all mess up at one point in our lifes. do not think much about but learn from it, don't do it again and think before you do wrong to any one else always be up front.. again just feel what it would be like with the shoe being on the other foot...move on that helps the pain a little. who knows maybe in time he may heal and forgive you

If he's your first true love, it may be something you never get completely over. I was with my first love for five years and it took me a few months to figure out how to move on, but even though we've been broken up for five years, he'll always have a place in my heart. However, I believe I will find someone I love more than I ever loved him. Drowning yourself in drinking is just going to make it worse in the long run. Allow yourself time to heal and you've got to forgive yourself for what it was you did wrong. If you can't do that, you'll find it even harder to move on. You can't change the past. You can only learn from it and move forward.

Until you're done feeling it and have properly adjusted to life alone. In the mean time, make friends and don't take that baggage into a new relationship. It's a killer, especially during those intimate times when you're supposed to be passionately screaming the name of the guy you're with.

i dont know, i got the same problem, we just broke up, but maybe there is still something linking between, ok, i try to do without her, try to forget her, and the more i try to forget, the more i think of, only when i am smoking i can feel a little better, maybe only once you can meet the other one nice around you, forse, ma chi lo sa?