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debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:22 AM
if you were looking for a serious relationship, and on the first date you had sex, would you think she was easy? and would you want a long term relationship with her?? ive heard many guys say, if she sleeps with you the first night, then the guy wouldnt be interested in a relationship as she appears to be easy and a slut?? the guys who said this said they would want someone with some pride, and wait a while before having sex.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 05/23/08 08:24 AM
Can guarantee there would be no "sleeping" with anyone on the first date...two lane road, and I love my sleep (the actual eye's closed, ZZZZZzzzz's).

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 05/23/08 08:24 AM
No, I probably wouldn't want much of nothing to do with her.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:26 AM
No, I probably wouldn't want much of nothing to do with her. i agree. if a man was like that to me, i wouldnt want anything to do with him either.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:26 AM
Can guarantee there would be no "sleeping" with anyone on the first date...two lane road, and I love my sleep (the actual eye's closed, ZZZZZzzzz's). me to, i just pop a sleeping pill

hauveralan Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 2827	Fri 05/23/08 08:27 AM
i some what agree with that.......but sometimes everything is just right the first night and it happens without either person really thinking about it. Some people just have thta connection. A few of my ex's i have slept with the first night i met them and then backed off till we really got to know each other. Sometimes if that's the first thing you do it makes alot of other stuff that much easier

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Fri 05/23/08 08:28 AM
A woman shouldn't even have sex on a first date...Maybe the 5th or 6th if the guy can wait that long

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:29 AM
A woman shouldn't even have sex on a first date...Maybe the 5th or 6th if the guy can wait that long they shouldnt, but they DO

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 08:29 AM
I think all relationships escalate at different paces. I had a relationship where we waited months and one that...well, noneya, but it happened much more rapidly. We just knew and were on the same page. Both were long and loving relationships, and the time line to intimacy had nothing to do with their impending failures.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:30 AM
i some what agree with that.......but sometimes everything is just right the first night and it happens without either person really thinking about it. Some people just have thta connection. A few of my ex's i have slept with the first night i met them and then backed off till we really got to know each other. Sometimes if that's the first thing you do it makes alot of other stuff that much easier thanks for that opinion. me personally, i wouldnt be comfortable enough to be intimate with someone id only met that day/night.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
also the guys told me, if she sleeps with me the first night, the chances are shes does that with everyone she wants to sleep with.

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
What if you had been talking online, on the phone, etc. for weeks or months before finally meeting face to face? Does that scenario change anyone's answer? Just curious...

therooster Joined Mon 03/31/08 Posts: 866	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
if you were looking for a serious relationship, and on the first date you had sex, would you think she was easy? and would you want a long term relationship with her?? ive heard many guys say, if she sleeps with you the first night, then the guy wouldnt be interested in a relationship as she appears to be easy and a slut?? the guys who said this said they would want someone with some pride, and wait a while before having sex. At my age i think if two people really click,,,, and they took it to the next level,,,,, it's all good!!!!!! EASY/SLUT ????????

olddreamer Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 348	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
if you were looking for a serious relationship, and on the first date you had sex, would you think she was easy? and would you want a long term relationship with her?? ive heard many guys say, if she sleeps with you the first night, then the guy wouldnt be interested in a relationship as she appears to be easy and a slut?? the guys who said this said they would want someone with some pride, and wait a while before having sex. not a good thing to sleep with someone on the first date......dont know where they have been.i believe in love at first site,fate,and animal attraction.....but i love the tease! tells me the woman has character! besides....good things come to those who wait! so wait....it will be even better....trust me!!

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
If things worked out on the first date like that, I wouldnt give it a second thought!!

hauveralan Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 2827	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
i some what agree with that.......but sometimes everything is just right the first night and it happens without either person really thinking about it. Some people just have thta connection. A few of my ex's i have slept with the first night i met them and then backed off till we really got to know each other. Sometimes if that's the first thing you do it makes alot of other stuff that much easier thanks for that opinion. me personally, i wouldnt be comfortable enough to be intimate with someone id only met that day/night. i really am weird because if i think i might really like someone i wait. like i said sometimes you just click so well that it just happens. With my ex wife though i made her wait almost two weeks, she was starting to think i was gay because she tried and tried and i keep telling her no and i thought we should wait. Of course I am single right now so i really don't know the best method one should take

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 05/23/08 08:33 AM
I think all relationships escalate at different paces. I had a relationship where we waited months and one that...well, noneya, but it happened much more rapidly. We just knew and were on the same page. Both were long and loving relationships, and the time line to intimacy had nothing to do with their impending failures. I agree with this as well. My original post, I was thinking more along the lines of someone throwing their self at you. In that case, I would have no further interest. If there was a chemistry there and things happened, I would most likely believe that it was meant to be.

MyrtleBeachDude Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 4028	Fri 05/23/08 08:34 AM
If I have sex on the first date it's usually after the date leaves and I am alone

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Fri 05/23/08 08:34 AM
Ummm does it not take two to tango? I mean why would you think badly of a person that YOU just got finished sleeping with?

odie3008 Joined Thu 05/08/08 Posts: 1337	Fri 05/23/08 08:35 AM
in my recent dating experiences that slepping together on first date ruins the relationship and takes the mystery out of it to experience later as u become ''in love''... and then make love instead of just sex..