Okay so heres the deal. Getting a divorce. Met a guy, really, really like him and we were talking about what we want out of life and we started talking like we were planning our future not just telling eachother what we want. Then I used the word home when we were going back to his place.

I have only KNOWN the guy for 2 months and been well with him for two weeks. Not that sex means a lot to me, but hey.

So is it wrong that I am so comfortable with him and we were talking like our future instead of the future?

I wouldnt say that its wrong however I think that it is way to early to have these feelings for a guy that you dont really know but as a female I know that we want something (the love) so much that we start imagining the feelings are stronger then they truly are. I think that if you start saying stuff like that now you might scare him (depends on the type of guy) so be careful.

hun, your divorce isn't even final yet. JMO in your situation you might want to take a few steps back and not rush into anything. you still have a lot to process and need time to regain who you are as a person.

I think you need to step on the brakes a little bit, and take a look around. If your not even divorced yet you might be just wanting to be in a relationship. I did the same thing when I first divorced and it was bad for both parties.

I know I know. I keep telling him to give me some space, because everytime I have something to say about my mother he says "well if you move in with me that wouldn't be a problem" and I say "we'll talk after the divorce is final"

I haven't been with anyone including my hubby in a year. The divorce has been going for probably that long. He has a medical condition so he keeps getting extensions. It pisses me off though, because I am paying for the house my ex lives in and rent to my mother.

RUN from that guy, he is only trouble. If he truly cared for you when you said that you needed space, he would have given it to you!

I say you do what you feel in your heart is right, life's to short to not do things YOU want. And although you are going through a divorce, doesn't mean you can't be happy with someone else. But just be careful this is someone you aren't rebounding on.

See he keeps saying that he's joking afterward. So is it a joke or is it something else.

it sounds like a game out of being lonley. sounds like you are working to fast to replace being lonely.give yourself some time slow down. most men if to talk like that to fast will run away real quick.let him make those comments so he dorsnt feel trapped into something to soon. good luck to ya

I did the rebound thing (no sex but dating) and it didn't work out and it hurt al the way around

One thought

From the frying pan into the fire

I can only speak for me, but when I end a relationship, I gotta figure out who "me" is again. Cause up until then, it was a "we".

Personally,,I'm all set making the same mistake twice

whether or not you wait for the divorce to be final,you should slow way down..you can still see him and slow down at the same time.

I was lonely for 7 months before I went out on my first date with someone who wasn't my hubby. It was fun, but I wasn't really into the guy, but I sort of kept hanging out because I didn't like to be alone. After we split, I hung out with my friends and found out I didn't need a guy. My ex-bf from highschool set and the guy *Rob* up and I went thinking I'd be bored but I really really like him. He said "I love you" and put up with me saying it was too fast. He's really been a good guy.

nah i think that depends on the person...the day my divorce was finalized i was ready to find someone else

he is not joking however he does move way to fast for what you need in your life right now. That is not necessarily a bad thing or that he is a bad guy that type of thing works for some people but right now it sounds like you need a friend and some company not just a guy to take care of you. you will probably resent him in the long run if you moved in with him. Then when yall break up you will be in the same or similar position that you are in right now...I think you need to save some money and get a place of your own so that you can enjoy your independance for a while

unfortunately there are guys out there that prey on women that are vunerable. if he was a descent guy he would have backed off when you asked him to and would be patient for you to be ready. jmo but i would avoid this guy at all costs and focus on yourself and getting yourself back on track.

I always feel that you need to end one relationship and heal from that one BEFORE you start another one!! It could be that you are just scared and lonely. BUT you can't tell me that you have healed from the last one because you haven't even got your divorce yet. SLOW DOWN or you are going to mess things up in your head!!!
Men think so differently then we do. When we think one way, they think another. They are just so hard to figure out, sure they can say one thing but they mean it a different way. I think you just need to slow down with this guy. The bad thing is you already had sex and is he going to wonder things like...ok she was still married but she had sex with me?? I know I would be wondering that if I was with a guy that was still married.
Get your divorce and then work on healing. Be friends with this guy but slow way down!!! Good luck

I had seven months of healing before I started thinking about moving on. The divorce may not be final, but I dont really care about that. I have been out with two guys, the Rob being one of them, and I really like him. He's a goof.