Buttons,
The girl had to figure out what that number is so that she would have
peace of mind. If she hadnt done that she would always be wondering what
the dude was hiding. Some women who were hurt find it hard to trust the
next guy. Anything suspicious triggers a nerve. Dont ignore the red
flags. Thats what I did with my child's father. I wouldnt go around
calling suspicious numbers but I would certainly keep the info at hand
or have someone else do the calling for me.

If a man cant take you to is house, be suspicious.
If he has to be someone where you cant go the same time each day, be
suspicious.
If a man is never available on the weekend, be suspicious.
If a man cant take his children around you and he is around yours, be
suspicious.
If a man say that he is divorce and wont show you the papers, be
suspicious.

These are only a few of the red flags.

Buttons,
MD has a little girl my daughter's age and she was there. I went there
but I did so with class. I was not loud and abnoxious. His wife and I
talked for 30 mins all the time he was pacing up and down the house so
nervous. And there were other females. The wife caught him in bed three
months earlier with the same female that called me. She had forgiven
him. So he is one of em who wont change. But nest time he will be more
cautious about who he hurts. He told me he is scared because no one had
come to his house before and I could have been a crazy one with a gun.
He is now concern how is actions could endanger his child.

You are right though. Had I taken the time to think instead of acting
when I was angry, I may not have gone to his house. But I would find
another way to teach him a lesson or two. I was falling in love with
him. He made decisions for me by lying to me. He deceived me and my
heart was broken. I just moved from PA to get away from my ex and start
my life over only to meet the same man I left behind. I thought I made a
better choice by picking someone educated, caring and sensitive. I was
so excited. I told him about my ex with tears in my eyes. And thats why
it hurt deeply because he knew his intentions and he knew my greatest
fear...Him!