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Topic: Ever feel lost to help...
wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Sat 05/17/08 12:07 PM
.....the one person whom brought you to a better place in your head and heart , and then the universe slammed them with a HUGE dose of loss/grief....like most intense feelings grief changes who we are sometimes for now...sometimes forever....I'm trying to stay positive and supportive, but my own fragileness gets in the way....how do we help them hang on when (barely hangin on) its all we can do for/to ourselves..... ~wicked~

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 05/17/08 12:09 PM
This is how I feel about Peccy I just dont know how to get thru to him

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Sat 05/17/08 12:12 PM
This is how I feel about Peccy I just dont know how to get thru to him ....OK OK OK ....lol..made me smile...TY

LightVoice Joined Thu 08/09/07 Posts: 7405	Sat 05/17/08 12:14 PM
This is how I feel about Peccy I just dont know how to get thru to him OMG {{{{{ Mirror! }}}} ROFLMAO! You totally caught me off guard with this..almost wet myself!

LightVoice Joined Thu 08/09/07 Posts: 7405	Sat 05/17/08 12:18 PM
.....the one person whom brought you to a better place in your head and heart , and then the universe slammed them with a HUGE dose of loss/grief....like most intense feelings grief changes who we are sometimes for now...sometimes forever....I'm trying to stay positive and supportive, but my own fragileness gets in the way....how do we help them hang on when (barely hangin on) its all we can do for/to ourselves..... ~wicked~ I wish I had magic words for you... unfortuantely, there are no magic words Something like this is very much akin to hanging on the side of a mountain... all you can do is hold on as long as you possibly can and pray with your entire essence that help comes along.. or that you find the stregnth to climb back up. Have asked the Universe to assist you BOTH

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Sat 05/17/08 12:26 PM
I wish I had magic words for you... unfortuantely, there are no magic words Something like this is very much akin to hanging on the side of a mountain... all you can do is hold on as long as you possibly can and pray with your entire essence that help comes along.. or that you find the stregnth to climb back up. Have asked the Universe to assist you BOTH ....thankyou bunches...our relationship is in its infancy not sure it can with stand so much pressure...gonna try like hell though !!!!

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/17/08 12:33 PM
This is how I feel about Peccy I just dont know how to get thru to him I do...LOL

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Sat 05/17/08 12:37 PM
.....the one person whom brought you to a better place in your head and heart , and then the universe slammed them with a HUGE dose of loss/grief....like most intense feelings grief changes who we are sometimes for now...sometimes forever....I'm trying to stay positive and supportive, but my own fragileness gets in the way....how do we help them hang on when (barely hangin on) its all we can do for/to ourselves..... ~wicked~ I think you need to take care of yourself first. Only do what you feel you are able to do to help. Just a phone call to let them know you care or a card. I had a similar situation last year with a friend. I wish I had handled it diffently looking back at it now. Hope this helps.

DQ66 Joined Fri 11/16/07 Posts: 803	Sat 05/17/08 06:01 PM
.....the one person whom brought you to a better place in your head and heart , and then the universe slammed them with a HUGE dose of loss/grief....like most intense feelings grief changes who we are sometimes for now...sometimes forever....I'm trying to stay positive and supportive, but my own fragileness gets in the way....how do we help them hang on when (barely hangin on) its all we can do for/to ourselves..... ~wicked~ I think you need to take care of yourself first. Only do what you feel you are able to do to help. Just a phone call to let them know you care or a card. I had a similar situation last year with a friend. I wish I had handled it diffently looking back at it now. Hope this helps. I agree. Only if you take care of yourself can you help someone else. And grief is a strange animal. We all have to deal with it on our on terms, in our own time. You can let the other person know that you are there to support, but you can't take the grief away. If you yourself are fragile, be careful. It's easy to get dragged down. Just remember that this too shall pass.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 05/17/08 06:08 PM
That's a tough thing. You have to just hang in. Be supportive, be an ear, let Them talk. Kudos to you for doing this!

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Sat 05/17/08 06:11 PM
This is how I feel about Peccy I just dont know how to get thru to him

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Sun 05/18/08 05:48 PM
That's a tough thing. You have to just hang in. Be supportive, be an ear, let Them talk. Kudos to you for doing this! ....no choice he owns my heart now.....

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Sun 05/18/08 05:58 PM
Been there no doubt. You feel like you have to walk on eggshells sometimes, for fear of hurting the person.

wickedlluccy Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 1040	Sun 05/18/08 06:01 PM
Been there no doubt. You feel like you have to walk on eggshells sometimes, for fear of hurting the person. ....nope just wait/in till he resurfaces from the depths of despair he is tryin to hide from the world.....not the eggshell type...tough guy (rockcandycoveredmarshmellow type)