LONG POST WARNING (lol) ok i guess since life is not meant to be a spectator sport
i better quit reading and get to writing...
Hi,
Though i am new to the site I want to ask a question , out of a recent personal situation !
About a decade ago I began to be "real good friends" with a person whom I almost immediately felt was respectable and very committed to his relationship with his wife and among 3 kids their disabled youngest !
He would be the sometimes come to our hangout, play pool have a beer n then "have to go home now the wife needs a break" kinda guy what an awesome person...
ok jump ahead 12 yrs later...we still run into each other (yada yada yada) and have something other than a disabled child in common....I now been divorced a few yrs and he's goin through it now ( the way i hear it the wife threw in the towel for a guy she thought would better suit her)

Well one day here a few mos back...(you know how that works right) .... SO THEN ONE DAY he says "hey i never made no promises" ( I don't remember hearing him do it so that's cool )
etc...I got the distinct feeling that while he WAS SAYING I am just out having a good time etc" His thoughts turned to more , why else would he make such a big deal out of "we can't hang out"???
Aren't we suppose to be ADULTS ? I don't get the whole thing and maybe that is cause I am not so familiar with all this Dating one for dinner friday, go to the movies with another on saturday ....and unless you really ARE "JUST FRIENDS" it is different plz comment , cause i am almost sure i missed something

That is what I am saying HOWEVER i guess my own confusion i was trying to get a better picture on is that it began to turn into more than just " A THING " and as HE was the one who said "it's all just for fun "
I didn't get why he suddenly acted as if there was anything to break off if FUN was all there was u see??? ANYHOW no worries I was just curious about other people's input !!!

I would think if he is going through a divorce, you would never want to get messed up with him. He needs time to heal, then time to figure out what he really wants. Right now he is just looking for fun..thats a bit obvious. I think before I would have slept with him I would have dated him several times.
I never sleep with anyone unless I date them for several months, then if they date someone else...I obviously won't date them again. If you were not in an exclusive dating relationship, you really jumped the gun.
Most men do not look at things like us women do. Trust me, you have to ask questions BEFORE anything happens.

wow, I wish I had words of wisdome here, but I still don't see what is going on.

Sounds to me like you expected more and he didnt... i dont mean to sound rude.. Im really not.. But I think maybe it meant more to you then to him.. Move on... JMO

What she ^^^^^ said....Move On....both of you are ready for the same level of commitment