I am part of a group in my area & find that talking with these people
helps when times get tough. There seem to be a lot of us on this site.
Should we chat on matter that bother us, might help somebody else by
doing it.
How is dating different?
Hard to sleep late on weekends & holidays?
Kid problems?
Advice for couples fighting?
Just anything you might want to say.

Let's see where it goes.

Well if my kids aren't home I have to sleep with the living room light
on...my kids have problems at times, especially my son. Dating is hard
because I put my kids first. I'm not just bringing any man in their
lives. So because of that, very few men are willing to put the time in
to earn my trust to be able to spend more time with me with kids around.
I'm thinking when they graduate, I'll be able to devote time to someone
else. I'm still young...have been on my own for 9 years with my kiddos.
Life has been hard but we are still blessed and have wonderful memories
of those that we have lost.

Iam no spring chicken either my kids are adults but they still think dad
should not do this here,excuse me!I have done my duty to country and
kids my turn to have some fun here go get em

I agree....kids are protective but I have a right to live a life too.
Plus I was young, early thirties when I lost mine. I am hoping that I
once again find true love.

Gwen was older than I, her daughter is bothered by my dating/friends.
My son says dad needs to live his life,to early to shut down. I know
several widows w/children, they have similar problems w/children. They
are to young to understand. Hope more people will jump in.

Oldsage -- I've read a number of your posts where you've mentioned your
relationship with Gwen, and I have to tell you, I'm touched by the way
you've described those times in your life. While I do feel bad for you,
in a way, for being without her now, at the same time I have to admit to
being a little envious of you -- to have been in that sort of
relationship, I wonder what that would be like! I have a hard time
maintaining anything for more than 6 months or so; basically it's just
been an endless series of bad selections on my part!

But enough of my blatherings....what I wanted to tell you is that,
regardless of how anybody else feels about it, you certainly have the
right to do whatever it takes for you to be happy. You're still alive,
you still have a heart and feelings and a need to care and be cared for.
That never stops as long as we're still breathing -- and I think anyone
who truly cared for you, who truly took the time to understand you,
would realize that.

Please keep up the postings, I'm always interested in what you have to
say.

Im a widow and don't have this problems anymore, had them for
8 years, Im moving on !!!