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Topic: Unrealistic expectations
Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 05/10/08 02:21 PM
just get real

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 05/10/08 02:23 PM
I once talked to a guy for a few months before we met face to face. We had already developed feelings for each other and the expectation level was thru the roof. And when we met, of course "it" wasn't there. We had built it up to be something that it could never have been.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/10/08 02:24 PM
you mean like men expecting you to look like Jessica Simpson, cook like Joan Clever, and work like wonder woman all at the same time????

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Sat 05/10/08 02:25 PM
I've learned to expect nothing out of life in general..and Its never disappointed me

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 05/10/08 03:30 PM
I once talked to a guy for a few months before we met face to face. We had already developed feelings for each other and the expectation level was thru the roof. And when we met, of course "it" wasn't there. We had built it up to be something that it could never have been. oh ya .. done that for sure

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 05/10/08 03:34 PM
Like expecting people who claim to be your friend to understand when you make a mistake and apologize for it repeatedly, but they are having too much fun bludgeoning you with it? It was unrealistic to expect anything better from such people.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 05/10/08 03:35 PM
I once talked to a guy for a few months before we met face to face. We had already developed feelings for each other and the expectation level was thru the roof. And when we met, of course "it" wasn't there. We had built it up to be something that it could never have been. oh ya .. done that for sure now thats what I'm talkin about..... why set ourselves up ........people get hurt too easily.. someone I am really into is miles away..... why go somewhere that just cant happen and hurt two people from across the county. we all too often lead with our hearts....and reality sets in after the feelings...leaving pain in the wake... I respect the person way too much...and her feelings for that.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 05/10/08 03:49 PM Edited by PATSFAN on Sat 05/10/08 03:49 PM
Yes, I learned that from being married & they weren't even unrealistic

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Sat 05/10/08 04:55 PM
I believe so.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Sat 05/10/08 08:35 PM
Like expecting people who claim to be your friend to understand when you make a mistake and apologize for it repeatedly, but they are having too much fun bludgeoning you with it? It was unrealistic to expect anything better from such people. Your rhetoric grows tiresome... Get a new hobby

Kravynn Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 1513	Sat 05/10/08 08:36 PM
I think so. Otherwise I wouldnt be single.

rush2001 Joined Thu 04/17/08 Posts: 2577	Sat 05/10/08 08:38 PM
Realistic I can handle but unrealistic, there's just no way.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Sat 05/10/08 08:55 PM
I think so. Otherwise I wouldnt be single. Are you talking about your own or the expectations others have for you?

SilverJoy Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 570	Sat 05/10/08 09:12 PM Edited by SilverJoy on Sat 05/10/08 09:16 PM
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS....Are they automatic death to a relationship? Yes, most assuredly they are! Does this mean we should NOT have expectations of others? Absolutely NOT! However, I just choose to keep them SIMPLE and "realistic"...and be willing to maintain a high level of acceptance when one potentially falls short of what I perceive should be "expected". Who am I/we to judge? We ALL have our faults, limitations and "ickiness" (is that even a word? LOL!)...don't we? Hence, let's play fair in the sandbox of life, shall we?

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Sat 05/10/08 09:16 PM Edited by eileena9 on Sat 05/10/08 09:27 PM
Yep......To any kind of relationship.....

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Sat 05/10/08 09:37 PM
Are they automatic death to a relationship? While I don't personally thing they'll kill a relationship all together, they WILL make it harder to give said relationship a chance. The best way to go through with a relationship is to go through it in stages. Don't expect too much at the start. And DON'T start bringing up stuff that shouldn't be brought up when the both of you haven't even got to that point yet.

puckthefackers Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 1004	Sat 05/10/08 11:23 PM
you mean like men expecting you to look like Jessica Simpson, cook like Joan Clever, and work like wonder woman all at the same time???? Either that or women that expect you to look like Brad Pitt, finish stuff around the house like Bob villa, and have a bank account like Bill Gates all at the same time.

Unique9586 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 416	Sun 05/11/08 06:05 PM
Expect the worse and you can never be disappointed

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Sun 05/11/08 09:15 PM
Are they automatic death to a relationship? Pretty much.

UplandHunter Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 8066	Sun 05/11/08 09:18 PM
You can only expect what you are told by that person or have witnessed first hand... Otherwise all are unrealistic expectations...and will erode the future prospects of that relationship. The truth sometimes hurts but lies hurt worse.