I know how you feel. You know what I did, I just gave up trying and started living for myself and not worry about him any more. Since I stopped trying and opening up, he is doing it now. Hang in there.

advice you give to others -- is subconsciously for yourself

never said better,.tx

may

somehow we have to find a way to be good enough for ourselves,..and the rest doesn`t matter so much anymore,..

when we feel good about ourselves,..when we like ourselves,..ironically others do to,..

the world is only a relection as to how we really feel about ourselves,..

don`t know if this helps,..only thing that helps me is too feel the pain,..cause when I can really sit with it,..I mean take it all in,..it will pass,..

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it just kind of feels like you can have fun with anyone...except your other half. Seems like everyone else cares about you more than they do. Seems like your whole relationship is one big fat lie and a joke...I just wish I knew what to say to make your day a little brighter.

almost forgot,..talking about it too,..is extremely helpful,..I`m a good listener,..

sounds like me,..would you say he is emotionally detached ?

When you are hurt ,just put your head together and try to look after your health ,your money and your future . Usually people who hurt others are selfish ,greedy and have no decency to start with . Reality is to be faced and emotions must be buried once and for all . Anyone who really loves you or cares about you does not hurt you . Those who hurt you think only about themselves ...so star thinking about yourself too and forget them . !.

There is no way in life to avoid pain, unless you are a heartless jerk off, who uses people for their own schemes.

The pain you feel will subside, and the trick (I have found) is to learn from it. Learn about yourself, look at the things you did wrong, have the wisdom to NOT do them again.

There will (hopefully) never come a time in your life where you don't feel pain, and hurt when someone you love hurts you. That makes you human.

For those who live their lives in an emotionless bubble, they aren't really alive. they may think they have it all together, but they are really missing the boat.

**was living in an emotionless bubble** I know these things.

Its not weak to feel pain dear- its part of life and how we learn. I used to hate pain and do everything i could to avoid or supress it. I thought it was some terrible by-product of being human that should be thrown away. Then I realized something- God gave us all of our emotions -love, joy, serenity, anger, sadness, pain, excitement for a reason! Holy ****!

So, what am I supposed to do with the ones I dont like? Breathe in and out. Talk to a friend. Get out of my head and go for a walk and listen to music . Help a neighbor. Yes, the pain will fade and be tolerable, then a dull roar, then a memory. And I will have two great lessons- one is I can and will survive (it didnt kill me i just wanted to die lol), and what was the reason for the pain? what did i learn that I can benefit from?

I know it hurts, you will live, and your spirit will be stronger.