I don't understand this line at all. Can you expand upon it?

In your post Lillith, the word "you" was used. Was that meant to be directed at myself or was it in the third person? I couldn't really identify with what was wrote if you were directing it at myself but could see a point if it was in the third person.

You just met him right? (the overweight guy?) How long did it take you to meet?

That would be too much time for me. August for a FIRST date? Nope.

Okay. Let me try to go at this statement another way. People involved in Internet dating tend to be sorta reticent about it and not really very comfortable, as it is unnatural. Therefore, they can be more on guard in meetings and on dates then they would in other social settings.

In an LDR, one can focus on an intangible or certain aspects of a relationship. I.E. feelings over day to day realities. (for example) So that could create a perception a person is being more open.

So, again, I don't do this and did not at all meant to imply you did this, but it might explain the women a bit. Makes sense?

You really made me laugh!! He is not "the overweight guy" HE ES THE SEXIER GUY.. he drove 450 miles just for spend the nigth with me..WISH ME LUCK.. I'm in love

Yeah, I think I see what you are saying Lillith.

I was taken by the lack of communication with local women vs. more distant ones. I am talking about the initiatiaion of communication more than anything else. Once someone talks with me I have have fairly good success. I'm a nice person I think who can hold a good coversation.

It's the ignoring of me part that is troubling. When I see someone local and message them I tend to be ignored more often. When I see someone distant I message them and get a response. I'm the same person. My first message is bascially the same as you don't want to scare off a person.

Are the women here the same as the women there? I would think so. What's different? The safety of distance...possibly. That's what my thinking is on this. Does that flow into the actual relationship phase? That was my thinking as well. Is my logic faulty? Is there something I am not thinking about? You helped me a little on this issue though, thank you.

Yeah, I think I understand what you mean. If the distance is too far, you figure there is no chance for it to grow...if the distance is too close, you may feel cold feet...yup!

SORRY!!! He is the best sex you ever had. I am in no way knocking that guy! hehehe He's a very lucky guy and I wish you both all the luck in getting that distance scrunched down at some point. Have fun!

If I had to hazard a guess, I'd say it was 'gamey'. Women can try to not seem overly available or desperate, even when the person they are ignoring is constantly on their minds. I'd say in that situation.... keep moving until you find a lady comfortable enough in herself to be high school hearts and rainbows and answer the phone in the shower sort of excited.

Yes, and it is that initial contact more than anything else where I have noticed this. I message people locally and they ignore me or I never make it past the 'hello how are you?' stage. One to two messages if they answer. So we never really get to know one another. Still most don't even do that.

I wonder why they are on a dating site. Also I match their needs they stated on their profile but they don't even explore me as a possibility. I know we are not all going to be attracted to one another. Still, if part of the profile say they want to make friends and network....uh...hello!?

well that is what happens when you are not close.
you cant put boundries on things like this.
you never know what you might be missing!

Even though I have talked to some excellent women on here, the long distance thing just is not for me.. Call me traditional

well hurry up and get here and it wouldn't be so bad love