Alright so I want honest advice about my current situation... so here goes...

I dated a guy in the military for 4 months, I never met him personally, but we talked every night on the phone and he told me how much he loved me.. etc... you get the point! Well then after 4 months I got a call from his friend saying that he thought I should know that the guy I was dating had a FIANCE! I was totally shocked and heartbroken and never heard from him after that!

So now the current situation...

I met another guy online.. also in the military... and he seems perfect but bc of my past situation I cant trust him! He could be a nice guy or he could be doin exactly what the other guy was doing!? So... Should I trust the new guy or let it go!?

~Karly

He says babby it aian't your booty is your beauty

Trust until they give you a reason not to..

It is hard but you need to give him the benefit of the doubt hun.

you should probably at least meet a guy before saying youre dating eachother.youll never know unless you spend a decent amt of time with eachother in person.it can happen to anyone anywhere, military or not.

just dont get too wrapped up in it.but ya gotta meet in person at least.

good luck

If u dont trust him u should not waste your time a beautiful girl like u can fine someone else

Take it slow and see where things go. If you never meet him then It's not that big of a loss so don't worry too much about it. You can give him a chance but just don't fall for him till you meet face to face......

actually i wouldnt consider it as dating, sense it was only over the phone, thats really not considerd a relationship, and besides that he was on the rebound.. as for the other guy you dont want to put your guard down

I am an Army veteran myself, and can tell you from what I have seen personally. About 90% (or so it seems) of the men in the army (I can not speak for other branches) are all about getting that piece of a$$ whenever they want it. One of my ex squad leaders was married, and yet whenever we went to the field (training) he always had a new girlfriend for the duration.

So did the majority of the guys there. And don't misunderstand me, the women can be just as bad (look at my ex-wife for examples).

However, mky point is not all service members are little kids with even smaller peckers. Some of us are mature, honest, and sincere and we truly deserve the cahnce to prove ourselves, and to prove that not ALL the army is ike this.

So please, give the guy a chance, but be very careful and mindful of everything. If he is truly honest and sincere, then he is going to understand your concerns (talk to him about your past relationship), and he is not going to try and rush you.

Good Luck!!!

Online dating will always have risks involved, you understand these risks when you try online dating. Accept the risk involved and go for it, or accept the risk involved and shy away from possibly the one true love or possibly the same round again.

Online dating is coinflip material most of the time.

well, speaking from experience, being in the military for 18 years, i wouldn't trust anyone that i dont meet in person to gain a connection with. Military men and women can have a secret double life if they want. They can be married, and for teh fun and adventure, date someone on the side with out them even knowing. online dating is hard enough to get a connection with someone without meeting them first, but to think you can trust a person by just talking to them online is crazy. Try to find someone that you can actually be with in person and not someone that can easily hide behind a computer to "date" you. Good luck.

Thanks for responding! Its nice to have a viewpoint from a male in the army!

Thanks to you too! Military females AMAZE me! I know I couldnt do it!

Indeed.

a. An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.


you were dating????