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Topic: Just curious, don't answer if u don't
No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Mon 04/28/08 09:13 AM
For the record everyone can misjudge aonther persons ability to cope with situations. No one is able to see the future and somethings get out of hand before you know what is happening. Self defense is permissable. self defense is not stomping someone it is getting out of the way. Live and learn. Keep in mind..." fool me once: shame on you; fool me twice shame on me". An ounce of caution can save you a pound of pain and battle scars are not pretty on your face or on your soul.. Be brave life is not for sissys Thank you for clarifying for me.

cnoteblack Joined Sun 01/20/08 Posts: 691	Mon 04/28/08 09:20 AM
im glad most people know they deserve more than a relationship that is abusive. theres no reason to stay in a relationship like that.this day and age theres definately someone out there who will click with you and where you can both be happy and respectful. peace and lots of love to yall

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 04/28/08 09:21 AM
I may not be understanding your statement as it was meant, but are you saying it's not ok for a woman to protect herself when a man hits her, or just that it's not ladylike for her to prevail? To Pacificstar...forgot my quote here. I added; plesase note my view on self defense on; but I think the best course of action is to ALWAYS disengage a bully male or female with the minimal force necessary and take pride in being more mature, more in control, and productive than tradeing and eye for and eye which leaves both blind.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 04/28/08 09:27 AM
im glad most people know they deserve more than a relationship that is abusive. theres no reason to stay in a relationship like that.this day and age theres definately someone out there who will click with you and where you can both be happy and respectful. peace and lots of love to yall So very very true. FOr those who wonder if staying in an abusive relationship is better than having an absent parent and going it alone is preferable I can tell you from years of dealing with broken souls of children ABSOLUTELY one good parent is better than two warring ones; especially if one is being a victim. That kind of life lesson stays with kids forever.

Snoman1951 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 5731	Mon 04/28/08 09:28 AM
Yep..too old to get beat up and sleep in my truck anymore

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Mon 04/28/08 09:33 AM
I may not be understanding your statement as it was meant, but are you saying it's not ok for a woman to protect herself when a man hits her, or just that it's not ladylike for her to prevail? To Pacificstar...forgot my quote here. I added; plesase note my view on self defense on; but I think the best course of action is to ALWAYS disengage a bully male or female with the minimal force necessary and take pride in being more mature, more in control, and productive than tradeing and eye for and eye which leaves both blind. I do understand you now. I agree that's the best policy, but know that it sometimes happens (as with my own sister) that the only way you will reach the door is by stepping over him on the way out.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 04/28/08 10:08 AM
want. Have you ever been in an abusive relationship. I'll be the first one to answer. Yes, a very mentally abusing one before my marriage and my wife mentally abused me a little. yes. not only did he hit me, he also hit his dog, he got violent when he had a drink, i would run out the house and he would come after me and pick me up and make me go back in the house, once i got away, and that was the LAST time i ever saw the bastard.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Mon 04/28/08 10:43 AM
yes i still have nightmares about it

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 04/28/08 10:44 AM
yes i still have nightmares about it

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 04/28/08 10:45 AM


LAMom Joined Tue 12/12/06 Posts: 26866	Mon 04/28/08 10:45 AM
Yes Physically and Mentally,, Yet I can look back and say,, Damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn that was a life altering experience I will never live again,,, Life and Death rush through your Mind, and getting out is scary yet in the end,, I learned I am strong,, I am good,, And I do not and did not deserve this,,

Angelface2000 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1930	Mon 04/28/08 10:48 AM
Yes..The relationship I was in was mentally, emotionally, physically, and verbally abusive...I was even hospitalized with numerous injuries...He was a body builder and much bigger thatn myself...I moved to KY 6 years ago to get away from him.....the last time he beat me or the day I left in other words....I was unconscious and when I came to...My eyes were swelled shut and bloody.. I couldnt even see the alarm clock across the room...he also had taken my car keys...but I had been keeping a spare taped under my bottom dresser drawer along with cash...I backed my car to the back door and got some of my stuff..I left a lot behind....but most of what I left was replacable....I had to quit both my jobs bc I feared for my life....one of the jobs I had, I has able to transfer..and that same day I left him I scored a job 45 minutes away on midnights for one of the companies....and that night I hit a deer on my way to Monroe MI....the stort of my life... I had to leave Toledo 3 weeks later because he was stalking and harassing me.... Dont settle for less than you deserve...male or female....I am just thankful that I wasnt trapped in that situation with a child...I could only imagine.....Lots of love to the abused and neglected <3 <3 <3

singleflower30 Joined Sun 04/13/08 Posts: 23	Mon 04/28/08 10:56 AM
No I've never dealt with someone being abussive to me. I have lots of friends that at one time or another have dealt with this! CONGRATULATIONS to all that were able to leave that behind. Love, respect and enjoy life!!