in·ti·mate1   [in-tuh-mit]
–adjective

1.associated in close personal relations: an intimate friend.
2.characterized by or involving warm friendship or a personally close or familiar association or feeling:
3.very private; closely personal:
4.characterized by or suggesting privacy or intimacy; warmly cozy:
5.(of an association, knowledge, understanding, etc.) arising from close personal connection or familiar
experience.

Intimacy, have you ever really found it? I have read many profiles that say “not looking for intimate encounter” but I can only assume this to mean what a lot of people in these forums refer to as a one night stand, casual sex or just a good %$#@...you fill in the blank. However, real intimate encounters come so very rarely in life. It is a special relationship where two can really be as one. Just a smile or a look
into their eyes can send a rush of ecstasy through your entire body and mind. When laying together you can feel every fiber of their being and a touch becomes so much more than just physical contact, the beat of their heart can be felt and heard right through your own entire self. (Not talking about after sex when your heart is racing..LOL) You can walk along a beach at sunset , holding hands without even saying a word and can feel the love and energy of your soul-mate, these are just a few of the describable attributes of an intimate relationship, but there are many more that can’t really be put into words. I have dated many; I’ve had some great sex with some, and have loved a few, but have had only very, very few intimate encounters. I
think this is because the chemistry, honesty, openness and trust, all have to be there together to reach the ultimate “intimacy” and I think it is rare that two people can give and take all that is necessary to make it happen on a more frequent basis. So if you ask me… casual sex just doesn’t compare. To be honest, most times it’s more trouble than it’s worth. This all brings me to the beginning…which is when I read “not looking for intimate encounter” is my assumption correct, or do these women just want casual dates and sex?
I guess this all comes down to the fact that woman can speak English, Spanish, Chinese etc….but they do it in their own code. We men, after years of deciphering this code can get pretty good at understanding it…but when we get it wrong…are we in trouble…LOL. So why not just say “not looking for sex”? ……because that would be a lie for 95% of you……because admit it or not…you want sex, you just want it with the right partner.
Maybe the other 5% are just looking for friends because of schedule constraints, or have some phobias as to going out, finding and meeting new people or a host of other reasons. But mixed within this whole 100% there must be someone else out there “looking for an intimate encounter”. Anyone??? LOL…Hope you enjoyed the thread.

Disclaimer: The percentages above do not represent a Gallop poll or any such verifiable data, but reflect the opinion of this writer only.

i've thought about that myself, but not in so many words

OK then! I do deeply desire an intimate encounter.

LOL Shoe...then maybe you should put that on your profile

Mathmatically given the population of the US, Canada, and Ireland (personal choice)...I have roughly a 3.333* percent chance of finding true love...so your sayin there's a chance.

You and your percentages Fear

Yeah Fear...its about the same percentage as hitting the lottery

Leave me alone...I'm good with numbers.

To the OP .. we dont put it on our profile, because most guys just want the sex .. don't care about whether it's with the 'right' partner ..

I for one, get enough offers for sex without advertising intimate. And I only have friendship on mine

Geesh, I'd be overwhelmed with the contacts. No time. LOL

Wanna have sex?

Well written. I thought all of that was a given......see what I get for assuming??

Fade...your right...you would be overwelmed

thank you


Love the water behind you BTW .. and coffee in your hand. No fair .. coffee, morning and ocean ........... *sigh*

Fade...makes for the start of a good day...just wish I had someone special to share it with

Ya I hear ya .. I was born/raised in LA so living at the beach was 2nd nature.

Nice post btw .. lots of good points.

But I never put 'not looking for an intimate encounter' because to me the one IS the other ... relationship/intimacy

Why date someone you don't want to be intimate with?

Fade ..your right of course...it just shows how "definitions" have changed so much I guess

shoe,,,,,,,,,you are an incounter,,,,,,not sure about th intiment part but jsh wouldn't be th same with out ya,,,,,,,,hang in there gal

LOL .. ya speaking of "definitions". I can't even email you to tell you that you look like my kid's pediatrician. You restricted YOURSELF. Now THAT'S funny.

I date so young that I couldn't possibly put age restrictions on my profile. Most guys I talk to are in their 20's and 30's. But I wouldn't restrict anyway.

Why restrict your friendships with anyone on JSH. I'd be the one to lose out.

Psst...I don't know that many words.

LMAO...Fade I didn't even know I had any "restrictions" it's been a long time since I set it up...probably was my search criteria....sorry...it took awhile to find where that was...but its fixed. The irony of it all