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Topic: Holding Hands on First Meet
downhomechik Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 479	Tue 04/22/08 04:38 AM
I believe a person should ask the person they want to hold hands with for the first time. I think its a show of healthy respect for a persons boundaries. Maybe I'm wrong...what do you think?

Cinderella75 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 10049	Tue 04/22/08 04:41 AM
is that something u ask to do..or something that just kinda happens? Its like asking someone to kiss them..I mean if u have to ask..is that Chemistry even there?

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 04/22/08 04:42 AM
To me, holding hands is really more of a third date activity. That said, one should still ask. I agree. Hi Cinderella. Pumpkin got back safely I see.

Cinderella75 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 10049	Tue 04/22/08 04:45 AM
To me, holding hands is really more of a third date activity. That said, one should still ask. I agree. Hi Cinderella. Pumpkin got back safely I see. Yea..lol..

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Tue 04/22/08 04:45 AM
I think asking is kind of nice. And, yes it does show respect for boundarie's. It give's the person reason to think more about it after, and the opportuninty to dwell on it therfore, perhap's creating more chemistry.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 04/22/08 04:45 AM
Offering a hand and giving that question mark smile is asking enough for me.

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Tue 04/22/08 04:48 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 04/22/08 04:52 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. How do you refuse any differently than if they just take it though? Both awkward situations really.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 04/22/08 04:52 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. All of these issues would be easy to tackle if people were a little more perceptive about picking up body language signals. You always have a choice though. It's hard to hurt someone by saying "no." However, you've gotta' suck it up and do it. ...like when Cinderella turned down my offer to be lead singer of my garage band called "Hot Chick and Old Guys."

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 04/22/08 04:53 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. Ya, I agree here... Besides no one likes a wussy...either take it with authority, or sit there looking pitiful.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 04/22/08 04:54 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. Ya, I agree here... Besides no one likes a wussy...either take it with authority, or sit there looking pitiful. [/quot Yo Lily. What up? How's the vision rebounding from the macing?

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Tue 04/22/08 04:55 AM
is that something u ask to do..or something that just kinda happens? Its like asking someone to kiss them..I mean if u have to ask..is that Chemistry even there? I totally agree with Cinderella here.. if you have to ask is the chemistry really there...

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 04/22/08 04:57 AM Edited by No1sLove on Tue 04/22/08 04:58 AM
I just say, "I'm really not in the hand holding mood tonight." I don't feel a need to make sure he knows that he's the reason that I'm not. Why ruin his evening? I guess you think that makes me a whimp?

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 04/22/08 04:57 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. Ya, I agree here... Besides no one likes a wussy...either take it with authority, or sit there looking pitiful. [/quot Yo Lily. What up? How's the vision rebounding from the macing? Good, but I was at the doctors yesterday..AGAIN, for my lungs. The girl got arrainged yesterday...so she spent the weekend in jail.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 04/22/08 04:58 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. Ya, I agree here... Besides no one likes a wussy...either take it with authority, or sit there looking pitiful. [/quot Yo Lily. What up? How's the vision rebounding from the macing? Good, but I was at the doctors yesterday..AGAIN, for my lungs. The girl got arrainged yesterday...so she spent the weekend in jail. What's the prognosis? Breathing treatments necessary?

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 04/22/08 05:03 AM
What if you're not feeling it? Then you're obligated without choice. Ya, I agree here... Besides no one likes a wussy...either take it with authority, or sit there looking pitiful. [/quot Yo Lily. What up? How's the vision rebounding from the macing? Good, but I was at the doctors yesterday..AGAIN, for my lungs. The girl got arrainged yesterday...so she spent the weekend in jail. What's the prognosis? Breathing treatments necessary? Ya, I had one yesterday, but I have one for at home, that should hopefully be it.

2Btrue2One Joined Wed 06/13/07 Posts: 2447	Tue 04/22/08 05:04 AM
I don't mind holding hands on the first date, or even kissing, you can tell it's ok just by looking in their eyes, if the glow isn't there then I wouldn't do it..

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 04/22/08 05:05 AM Edited by CleanBathroom on Tue 04/22/08 05:06 AM
You'll be fine. Have the tort law wheel spinning on this one or what? It seems actionable to me. I'm not big on it but you should be recompensed and "made whole" for lost time, et al.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 04/22/08 05:12 AM
I don't mind holding hands on the first date, or even kissing, you can tell it's ok just by looking in their eyes, if the glow isn't there then I wouldn't do it.. I'm good with that. The unstated question has always been evident enough to me. But if my body language is misread, I prefer a subtle retreat. If I just don't know them well enough yet, I'd hate to insult them. Even if I knew it would never happen, I don't want to hurt feelings if I don't have to. Makes me sad to stomp someones feelers.

Torylynn Joined Sun 03/09/08 Posts: 119	Tue 04/22/08 05:14 AM
You know I think it should be asked aslo...I just met someone from here and he had the decently to ask if he could kiss me first.....That shows me there is respect for me and they didn't want to over step that line..