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writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Sat 04/19/08 08:04 PM
Okay,maybe this should be in relationships-but,eh whatever. I have been chatting with this guy for a little over a month and he responds to my messages when he can.But it's every two weeks or something.I tell people he's busy with work and they tell me he's pulling my chain...Should I believe my instincts or should I believe them?

Silkbutterfli Joined Mon 07/30/07 Posts: 1008	Sat 04/19/08 08:04 PM
How about asking him why the long time frame between messages?

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Sat 04/19/08 08:05 PM
Believe them. It could be that he is being nice that's all.

neo30 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 203	Sat 04/19/08 08:06 PM
Trust your instincts

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 04/19/08 08:09 PM
Okay,maybe this should be in relationships-but,eh whatever. I have been chatting with this guy for a little over a month and he responds to my messages when he can.But it's every two weeks or something.I tell people he's busy with work and they tell me he's pulling my chain...Should I believe my instincts or should I believe them? Go with your heart.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 04/19/08 08:09 PM
ask him first...then trust how you feel...your friends don't know him so they are prejudging.

cdanny47 Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2328	Sat 04/19/08 08:10 PM
Depend's on what kind of job he has???? I have had one's that was on call 24-7 and I would just sleep in my truck to save time and to really get some sleep,,,, I would ask tho,,,, Just to be safe,,,,

FAK Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 7817	Sat 04/19/08 08:11 PM
you have chatted for a little over a month....every two weeks...so you've talked 3 times?? What's your question

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Sat 04/19/08 08:12 PM
Personally, if I only chatted with someone every couple of weeks, I'd consider them an online friend and nothing more... To me if there is interest on both sides it's shown by both... But that's me doesn't mean it's the same for everyone else... My rule is "give them enough rope... eventually they'll hang themselves" figuratively of course...

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Sat 04/19/08 08:12 PM
Okay,maybe this should be in relationships-but,eh whatever. I have been chatting with this guy for a little over a month and he responds to my messages when he can.But it's every two weeks or something.I tell people he's busy with work and they tell me he's pulling my chain...Should I believe my instincts or should I believe them? If you've been chatting for a month and he responds every two weeks, doesn't this mean you've spoken with him twice?

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Sat 04/19/08 08:13 PM
you have chatted for a little over a month....every two weeks...so you've talked 3 times?? What's your question Beat me there, dude. very incisive comment

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Sat 04/19/08 08:19 PM
Okay,maybe this should be in relationships-but,eh whatever. I have been chatting with this guy for a little over a month and he responds to my messages when he can.But it's every two weeks or something.I tell people he's busy with work and they tell me he's pulling my chain...Should I believe my instincts or should I believe them? If you've been chatting for a month and he responds every two weeks, doesn't this mean you've spoken with him twice? It's probably 2 months now...

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Sat 04/19/08 09:12 PM
Thanx y'all for the input I've been going crazy for day...

checkinout42 Joined Sun 08/05/07 Posts: 241	Sat 04/19/08 09:14 PM
If I'd have listened to my gut with the last two guys I dated I wouldn't have wasted a year and a half on them....