I have known her for 13 years and i love her i just recently found this out. She knows how i feel and she feels the same way. She is in a relationship and her and her boyfriend are going to the same military base. She wishes that she could be with me but doesnt see how it would work. I know that my feelings for her will never change. I dont know what to do.

NEVER DO ANOTHER MAN'S WOMAN. NOT COOL.

here's what is going to happen, you and her boyfriend are gonna fight, she's gonna be with you and you will have to look over your shoulder for a couple weeks.

I hear you! I'm in the same situation, hence the reason I'm on this site--to find something to take my mind off of him. At least for now...

NEVER DATE A BUDDY'S LADY,,,,unless he says its cool,,,
AND EVEN THEN,,,I wouldn't...your friendship,,,,,just starts changing..

your doomed

find a different girl

look, the rest of the story depends on her. If she really wants you then she will dump her boyfriend and date you (distance or not). She and you both would find a way to make it work. Then the two of you would get married, which would station you in the same place by default... blah blah, happy endings right? I guess what i am trying to say is that she really doesn't know what she wants. Do you really want to be with someone whose feelings aren't mutual?

you waited 13 years, a little longer wont hurt

be patient if shes ment for you it will happen

i wish it were that simple she is active i am guard.

Armyguy..u need to listen to Driven...

I didn't even have to right a thing..

he wrote it all..

dot the I cross the T...

u have been dealing with this for a long time..

read ur situation a month..few months now...

somebody has to sh*t or get off the pot...

best of luck to u truely...

marriage still = you moving in with her. You would just get transfered to another guard unit local to her base. That's how it usually works anyways. Point is, if she would be happier with you than why is she with her boyfriend? Isn't that kinda of dishonest to both you and her boyfriend? You two gotta decide what you really want and make it happen. No one said it would be simple.

I'd help with that, but you are too young

Flip a coin on it...seriously, that's your best bet at finding a viable answer.

Dude, are you absolutely, 100% positive that this woman is the love of your life? And are you absolutely, 100% positive that she feels the same? Cause if these two questions can be answered with a resounding yes, then you two should be together.

I know. I know. She is involved, but truth be told, if she is not in love with her current boyfriend then it is a false relationship built on nothing. Sometimes, you have to make tough choices that require alot of faith and belief in what you feel you want. If you want her, then you just can't let her get away. I know it sounds like I am saying that you need to ask her to dumb her man, but I'm not. She has to do that if she truly wants to be with you. She needs to be honest with her BF and tell him that she just doesn't want him. Sadly, most people these days are too scared to do anything when it comes to changing things. I know I struggled with some changes in my life, but I made them and I am not looking back on them cause I went for what I wanted. She has to decide is she really and truly wants to be with you.

Look, when you take a chance on something, there is the possibility that it won't work out like you planned. But I am a firm believer that you can't sit back and stay in a rut. Sometimes you have to take that one step you have been afraid to take. She is going to have to do that in order for you guys to be together. That or her BF dumps, in which case then great for you two, lol. But, as it stands, he is in the way of what each of you wants. You shouldn't do anything here. She has too. But, and this is my belief, if she really wants you, and feels the way she says she does about you, then she will. If she doesn't, she will be miserable. Being in a relationship but wanting someone else sucks. She has to make a choice here.

Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Damn I am jealous!!!!!

Just remember what she is doing to her boyfriend right now because she will probably do it to you in the future if you do end up with her.What comes around goes around....

There's nothing to do per se.

It's already been done.

She has made her choice. She's with another man.

The only thing you can do is live with that and let her go, with peace and with love.

Good luck

Never mess with someone else's woman regardless how you feel. That is not cool. Where is your values? If she was not in a relationship that would be different. Otherwise, stay away from her & find someone else, too bad if your feelings are hurt, you'll get over it....