What have you learned from your mistake?

I hope you learned that the next guy you meet will not be married.

There are ways to know if a man is married or not. Where does he live? What is his phone number? Does he take phone calls from his home or only a cell phone? Can you get in touch with him anytime or is it only when he is available?

The excuse that you didn't know he was married doesn't wash. Even if it did, when you found out, you should have ended it right then and there.. no matter how much you think you loved him. If you decide to continue with a relationship and false promises, there is only you to blame for the outcome.

Take responsibility for your own life and getting even is just obsessing. Get over it and get on with your life.

I'm sorry if this sounds insensitive. But that's just the way I am.

I am the high priestess of the Universal Life Church of Brutal Truth and Honesty.

JB

Well I would have to say that the poster said 40 years since high school which would put this person in the 57-58 yr old range... How many people in this age group are used to the way we live in the current age. computers, cell phones, etc ..

I think there may have been clues that were not recognized because some people are smooth. She did not know he was married until he told her in a letter and ended it abruptly.

She obviously feels like he got away with it. She is angry.
It wont do any good to get even. Although do you think its fair for his current wife to not know what happened? Do you think this is the only time the guy cheated? The guy keeps living life as usual and does not care about anyone but himself. Protecting his own interests and worrying about losing the life he is living.

I think a woman knows if a man is married or not, unless he is really smooth or unless she is naive and gullible. Even so, when she found out he was married, she should have broken it off.

Tell the wife? I don't know if that should be done after the fact. It just does not seem right to me. Let them work it out themselves and let go of it. Stay out of their relationship. After you ended yours with him, its none of your business.

Its not like you care about the wife or suddenly want her to know... cause its "not fair" for her not to know about it. If you did, you would have broken it off when you found out. To tell her now is just revenge, pure and simple. Not nice.

JB

P.S. I'm 59 years old and I am aware of the technologies of computers and cell phones etc. Granted, not as much as the younger generation probably.