Never settle...

I hear ya on that one! Been there, done that. I learned that you can't have what you want just because you want it. Yes, you have to be very carefull who you chose. Get to know them over time. Do they walk their own talk?

Take no prisoners......

I can settle for human imperfection's. We all have them. Me? I quick to judge, and after, I think about it and loosen up to think about the other person's situation. Then, I am much more forgiving. Just wish that I didn't fly off the handle the way I do. I'm very judgemental at first. Wish that I weren't.

and ALWAYS Stay true to ur number one!!!!!!!(URSELF!)

you are very correct on can't change people if the situation is bad...........been there..........

To be loved back, now that is a feeling of security. That somebody has your back.

If I had it to do all over again I would not have gotten married at all. But I would not trade what I learned for a chance to do it again.

It's a crap shoot in the dark if you don't remember where you went wrong the first time.

Instead of just looking for a mate because it is expected and programed into our DNA, find your life's purpose and go after it.

If in going after that, you meet someone along the way that can support that purpose in a positive way, consider the possibility. But if they are there to divert you from your life's purpose run like a rabbit.

P.S. Do you know your life's purpose? It's to follow your bliss. It is your dream. It's what you want, and its what you came here to do. Find it.

JB

I learned a lot....way too much to list right now

I learned I am a good woman not to be slighted at all and I have learned that I can't carry past bad experiences into a new relationship. Doesn't do good to think all men are alike because they aren't

The first time he makes fun of me....he is out the door and hopefully with it hitting him in the arse as he goes.

Know yourself - even if you dont know exactly what you want.
Dont compromise your core values.
Dont trade one love for the sake of another - it's always a lie.
Trust your instincts.

... and the big one ...

Being loved is NOT something you have to earn.

way too much to talk about here

I think if closely examined, most people would come to the conclusion that most, if not all of their past failed relationships, were with the EXACT same type of person.

I believe that certain people are psychologically and biologically attracted to a certain set of qualities and features, and most of their relationships, not casual dates, but real relationships, tend to mirror most of the traits, and likely most fail for the same EXACT reasons.

Unfortunatley, this ALSO leads them to believe that "all of the opposite sex" are losers, dispite it really being the fact that they keep dating the same person over and over again.

I think I take people at face value which sometimes means I get screwed but I do tend to take a lot less bull****.

I never put up with physical abuse, but I have now learned not to put up with emotional abuse either.


I am still generous, but have learned not to be used.

Second chances will be rare. No more third chances. If they took the second chance & abused it , you've taught them they can get away with anything.

Men will give you the treatment you accept from them.

I am worth more than what I accepted in the past.

right on, little red hen!!

Never be reckless with someone else's heart... don't put up with someone who is reckless with yours.