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Topic: Good friend who is a compulsive liar?
DMan10463 Joined Fri 04/04/08 Posts: 66	Thu 04/10/08 06:09 PM
I have a good friend who is a compulsive liar, and i really want to help her..she is such a good person, but her lying is getting out of control. She is very insecure, and i know that is part of the reason why she lies..i think she also likes the positive attention she gets. But she came to me the other day..and really wanted me to help her...so my question is..how can i help her get a grip on reality and for her to stop lying. I really don't know what to tell her..so some advice would help. thanks oh..and please don't say stop being her friend...because I want to help her...I think abandoning her would make her lying worse.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Thu 04/10/08 06:09 PM Edited by itsmetina on Thu 04/10/08 06:11 PM
know many people like that maybe talking honestly about the situation would help in my experience most compulsive liars need serious counceling

barefootbaby78 Joined Fri 03/07/08 Posts: 2693	Thu 04/10/08 06:10 PM
she has a mental illness...she needs to see a shrink...all you can really do is help her with that and support her

Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Thu 04/10/08 06:11 PM
I would walk away. If I find out someone is lying to me, I walk away from them. Ask a few people on this site

Brenda_Darling Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 3696	Thu 04/10/08 06:11 PM
she has a mental illness...she needs to see a shrink...all you can really do is help her with that and support her i agree.

Queene123 Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 17056	Thu 04/10/08 06:12 PM
i have been there my ex hubby is a compulsive lyer as well as another ex bf. and of course they wont change... when i was pg with my son a friend of mine and her hubby were having problems so i let her stay with us, that night he was trying to fool around with her, and she told me the next morn and i confronted him and he started laughing about it. i knew he was lying. i belived her more than i did him, as i have known her for over 30years and she has never done me wrong, and he had number of times

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 04/10/08 06:12 PM
I'd say drop her!!! I couldnt be friends with a liar!! All relationships should be based on some sort of trust.....if you cant trust then you cant be a good friend or her to you.

Tankk Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 1450	Thu 04/10/08 06:14 PM
TEll her you'll always be there...and walk away. She might get it then.

1socialbutterfly Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 222	Thu 04/10/08 06:14 PM
Get her in touch with a good shrink

Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Thu 04/10/08 06:15 PM
Get her in touch with a good shrink touch what?

lil_bit Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 1685	Thu 04/10/08 06:15 PM
I have a good friend who is a compulsive liar, and i really want to help her..she is such a good person, but her lying is getting out of control. She is very insecure, and i know that is part of the reason why she lies..i think she also likes the positive attention she gets. But she came to me the other day..and really wanted me to help her...so my question is..how can i help her get a grip on reality and for her to stop lying. I really don't know what to tell her..so some advice would help. thanks oh..and please don't say stop being her friend...because I want to help her...I think abandoning her would make her lying worse. Be her friend and stand by her to get the help she needs

kittyeyes Joined Sun 04/06/08 Posts: 215	Thu 04/10/08 06:16 PM
she has a mental illness...she needs to see a shrink...all you can really do is help her with that and support her i agree. Yeap, I agree too.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Thu 04/10/08 06:17 PM
i'm a big fan of people being responsible for their actions; supporting them, which includes helping sometimes, just allows them to continue. you don't want to hear walk away, but you should and tell her to get help and maybe you will come back. it's a tough one.