a lot of women have issues with big men. I'm a big man,not much fat but a big man and most of the women i come across,which is a lot working were i do,want the little frail men. If they want muscles then you have to be cut/riped.

Could be, If I'm attracted to someone, I'll tell them to their face if I see them in person or if they're on the other side of the planet... but it is easier for lots of people to pick someone far away...

i know how you feel i just long for that connection of someone just holding me ya know... but yeah .. i am tired of looking

In my experience, I am less likely to be interested in people actively seeking involvements. Why? Because these people tend to place some of their self-worth on whether they are dating someone, or to be effectively seeking someone to fill a place in their lives. If someone is feeling that there's something missing, it's not my job to fill that hole.

I think it can be healthier to refocus on yourself for a while. Find ways to make your life more fulfilling for yourself. Find some additional hobbies, make some new friends. If you're feeling good about yourself and your life, you're less likely to be lonely, and people will notice your newfound confidence.