When you have been in a relationship for a couple years or more. Do you think it's ok to start another one one knowing it's been only a couple months that you have separated?


I was just looking at some of the post and see how some are so ready to jump into another relationship so soon after the had ended one.

if it was a marriage, I think you should wait a while

if it was justs dating someone maybe not as long

Really up to the individual.......but I need some time to chill!!!!!

It depends on when the relationship REALLY ended

After my divorce I wasn't ready for any type of relationship for about a year. I think the time depends on how serious the relationship was.. it's diffrent for everyone.

everyone heals at different times and everyone moves on at different times. i don't believe there is any set time to wait

I think people should give themselves time wether it was marriage or not. Some people come on these site hoping to find somone to forget about there ex and i think thats wrong and unfair to the other.

VERY good point

Only if the old, is trully gone from your heart.
Then THAT is the real question.
And to test that, you would almost have to SEE them in the arms of another, and feel glad for them, and where her happy is with her and her new lover...

But, we all can't do that test,lol so we just have to
have that feeling inside that says,,,simply, in her 'all''"BYE" w/o ANY,,,,anything(feelings)left to THINK ABOUT...
Thats my best truth to it man.??? Hope it helps...

It has been alost a year from my seperation from my husband and it's scarry out there so good luck. Just listen to your heart.

i was just giving my opinion to the topic

The "standard" is one week for every month, but everyone is different... and when it REALLY ended is another factor in the equation....

It's OK for you to do whatever you feel comfortable with!!

I started dating as soon as I left my husband. But my marriage was over long before then.

yeah I noticed that. I think it all depends on the situation. If the relationship has been on the rocks for quite a long time then I can see dating someone after a couple of months. But if there were no signs of anything going wrong. hmmmm I would not be able to do that. To confusing and would not want to bring someone into my life if im not at a point of moving on.

.........I definately felt it was right to just consider things for a while, all of my rights and wrongs in a previous life, and figure out how to correct some of those points, lest they bite me in the a$$ again!

I wouldn't say what is right for others, but I need a while to recover, then more to to reflect on what went wrong & how to not make the same mistakes. That has taken me 1 to 2 years in the past. This last time it has been 6 months & I feel ready. I havn't seen him, but have seen his brother & best friend & was able to talk about him without feeling emotional. He was living with someone within 10 days, I thought that was too fast, & even though I split up with him, I was hurt that I meant so little to him.

Yeah i can see your guys point where if it's been over long before then yes you can move on.

The ones that gets me, are the ones that it's not over for them and do try to move on. I guess what i have experience being on here that there are a few people that haven't let there past go so how can you move on if you don't.

In the case of most women I have dated I started dating the next day.....In the case of my wife I am still waiting to start and we have been divorced 3 yrs now....


Thats just sad

Some times it takes your heart longer to heal, took mine 5 years

But I'm all better now!