I wish my man would write me a love letter...

Technically I am being unfaithful every day, by living with and being in a relationship with someone who is not my estranged husband.

The guy I am with now? I couldn't stray, it would hurt me as much as him.

It really is a matter of finding that one who fulfills more than your bedroom needs...

It certainly isn't unheard of to date more than one person at once...and there is nothing wrong with that until something gets serious...


but that is another topic lol

what?

why don't african princesses and middle eastern doctors deserve love?


lol

There you go again
Leaving for parts unknown
Every lonely song I sing
Echos throughout my soul

More time apart than together
It hurts to say goodbye
more reunions than I care to count
punctuated by more time

You come home different every time
I don't know what to say
I see less sparkles in your eyes
As you trudge through every day

Jokingly called the Home Front
I keep the ebb and flow
Always ready to welcome you home
Before again you have to go

Ive heard your voice more often
On the phone or on paper
Our baby only met you once
Then you had to go away

Our hero we hold you high
In our hearts and in our minds
Yet still in my secret heart
I wonder if this is the true goodbye

I wasn't ready to lose you
Not to lend you to the cause
How can you be prepared?
For the fear of every loss

Half truths and half lies
On what you do every day
I don't feel like I am fair
To cry and feel ignored

You come home and shed the glory
All the sand, dust and rage
You kiss me twice, on the cheek
I've MISSED you, you always say

At night we go to our bed,
but it's more mine than yours
But you stand there staring at me
And slowly close the door

When your home at first it was magic
We couldn't feel enough
Now we are like strangers meeting
Like virgins, careful and soft

You stand there before me
Presenting just a man
You find yourself lacking
I see perfection there

You lie there beside me
with anguished liquid eyes
You say "Is this really what love is?"
Close your heart and sigh

No, my soldier it's not so
Don't be so quick to fold
This is what love MAKES
and is so hard to hold...

Go now my soldier
I pray for you once again
Go do your duty, and stay safe for me
I will wait here for you

Don't forget your love for me
And the truth that we both know
When this is finally over
No where else to go

Come back into my heart, my mind
And the love you leave behind
Present yourself, a soldier, a man,
And I will see perfection there.

I really dislike getting grilled on what exactly my job entails...

And then when I give in and tell them they say

"Oh you must be really smart then" in a tone of voice that's like -- cross that one off the list-- and just wait in agony till the "date" is over.

(Adds Beccs whole family to my prayers)

Im going to bed soon so you know the prayers are coming soon!


Wubs ya...you got the strength of hope and prayer comin to you in spades dear!!

^^^


OMG...I did that too! Funny, my sister was born not long after.... GROSS I never thought of that before!!!

LOL!!!



sorry...no more piccys for him then! heeheee


Oh I guess I should put my own experience in here...


I used to sleep nekkid...My bf at the time took pictures while I was sleeping and now, almost 3 years after breaking up, he STILL has them and keep threatening to put them on FB if I cut him off contact with me...


Something like those pictures would destroy me. My BOSS is on my FB and I get very upset if ppl tag me in pictures before asking me.

lol

then he will blame YOU for sending the pic in the first place LOL!!!


I think cells you can password protect the picture folders...might be worth looking into ;-)

OMG


If that happened to me...I'd probably have a panic attack and NEVER live it down...I just can't finesse myself out of stuff like that!

I would love to learn to ride....but winters here are long and i need a car first :)


My Bf has a 1999 Sonata...its got over 200000miles on it...I Love to drive it

But I want a car of my own :-)

I have an idea

For what it's worth, as I am not a parent...



But how about you cut a deal with her?

If you catch her sneaking around. Or lying, or doing things that you and she both know are wrong and underhanded, she is then going to be without every priviledge she ever had

Even to go so far as you broke the rules, you no longer make SMALL decisions such as what clothes to buy, bring bagged lunches YOU make to school, homework times, going over to friends' houses, all that stuff she takes for granted will be GONE because she disrespected you and your rules. No phone calls that you aren't listening in to, no internet time that you aren't sitting right there with her. Whatever it takes for her to know that putting a toe out of line will make you her worst nightmare!


Invite him over for supper, and tell her it's a one time shot--if he screws up, thats it. No more coming over. EVER.

IMO dating age is older than 12. I don't know if they have gone on dates, but it's not uncommon for kids that age to "date" with a parent in attendance. It seems backwards, but maybe if they (under supervision) see each other more, they will like each other less, and eventually drift apart? Absence may be making the young hearts' grow fonder...

Encourage her to be involved in after school activities where she can meet a large variety of people, maybe to reinforce in her mind that she has a large selection out there for young romances...

What I wonder is, how she got this into her head that she needs to reform this boy and mold him into something that everyone loves? And what is this going to do to this poor boy if he turns into something everyone ELSE wants, but isn't true to himself? He is a tender developmental age, and to have people saying do this not that and cry and yell at him to punish him may be more damaging than anyone could realise...

I DO wish you luck with this, it is a sticky situation for sure!

You are doing the right thing IMO of NOT laughing at her and minimising your perception of her feelings, diminishing them in your eyes do you know what I mean? Being open with you about her feelings for this boy means you have done right so far in raising her to TRUST you...That doesn't happen NEAR often enough so kudos to you! Parents to make their children feel silly and that their emotions are beneath "normal" people's notice due to age/maturity levels should be kicked, and then have the same thing happen to them, see how it feels!

Oh and that "she needs a parent--not a friend" saying? Drives me nuts. If more kids felt like their parent WAS a friend TOO...more bonding and trust would happen, and far less rebellion and problems.

I like the new beetle for looks too...BUT

We make our speed bumps really tall here...and Ive seen many people scrape their cars underneath!

O.o

Mazda 3 huh?

Ill keep that in mind thank you

Yeah i suppose a lease wouldn't be a good option for all the road trips I want to do this coming year...

What about buying new?

Is a lease or purchase better?

What should I look for as far as a warranty?

its ok keith, we still love you!

Are there makes/models that are known to have decent mileage?

Engine life?

Maintenance long term cost projections?

I am in the market for a car....it will be my first one...

I haven't the foggiest what to look for, but I don't want something too big, as I am only 5 foot tall!

Im looking for ideas of a car that would be automatic, forgiving of a new driver, kinda funky-not-old-ladyish and can last me a few years...


There are tons of used cars on sale in my area, but with not much idea of what to look for and what to avoid, I am a fish out of water!

I'm interested in supporting ppl, but I myself am not ready emotionally and stress-wise to quit...


Great idea though!

Ive done it a couple times at home....lazy days and a sweatshirt lol


In public...No...


36DD is too heavy to cart around without support...I have to wear two sports bras to work out...