isaac_dede it's ok to want things as not only there's nothing wrong with it but that's what makes us different than the rest
when I say selfish I mean by wanting to get and not thinking of our partner's needs
having said that there are different scenarios that this questions does not cover like what ages those kids are, from what background the ex comes from and other things one can't just cover in such a general question
but like I said in general if you enter a relationship and I mean both sides with the approach of giving I promise you that everything else becomes a minority and life of such couples would overcome most difficulties as most difficulties would be external issues anyway
one has to experience such a relationship to understand what I mean.

"things u dont do in a relationship "
very simple guys and girls
all of you say the right things but to sum it up I'd simply say you don't do to others what you don't want others do to you!!!

if a guy asks you if you're "open" you go and ask him exactly what was it that he meant, you don't go and open a new thread just to find out from others what he meant

the girl I'm with
that always make me happy

Leigh2154 nice post indeed but you know what's very wrong with it?
the fact you'll do it only when realizing you're gonna die, no lol
this is really how we should live our lives while we know there's still tomorrow not when push comes to shove and try to get everything in the last minute.
I think if I was asked that question I'd say, who says I got only 1y and what ever days to live?
I'd want to live so badly everyday I'd prove to all that I could live even longer than what everyone else gives me.

if one can't value him/her self first they probably won't be able to value anyone else!!!
we all need to value what we have and got by nature, and then maybe we could also value what others have cause if you don't, not only you won't value others but you'd always look at them with jealousy.
I personally value everything I have and all the people around me
cause I think this question is a bit misunderstood in a way, think about it is there anything really you shouldn't value?
maybe the question should be what are the things you don't value, I think the list would be much shorter.

let me tell you all something guys
your problem here really is that you all think about what YOU are gonna get from such a relationship and when you enter a relationship with such an approach of selfishness and only what I can get from it, I can tell you that even with a woman never married or one with no kids you'd have problem along the run.
being with a woman with children and giving her the emotional attention and the security she needs would probably give you the best woman you could ever get, the more you give the more you get
true it's not easy and you'll have to face some difficulties but so is life in every facet of it, you go through this one and you got yourself a woman that would give you her whole heart and self, a woman that would put her kid and you with the same priority in life
so before you say your opinion on the matter think twice what do you really want to give to get or both

if bad grammar would render one as dumb we could consider us all dumb than
cause all of us could have bad grammar in other languages just as well
you guys don't know that some people here didn't have the chance to learn English properly and not by their fault
some who have bad grammar can actually speak few languages how would you consider yourself compared to them?

and some have wisdom that you and I could only envy
so if you're one of those who said yes, I'd put you in same list of dumbs as well and probably one of the biggest one too.

For me it's being with my girl, that's what really makes me happy
all those things you guys write here are just how I like to be happy with my girl