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MILFs & Younger Men
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ya, it can take time to put the past away. I think we all deserve someone who will love us for who we are. I think that's why I like younger men - in general (granted there are exceptions) they are more likely to accept us as we are - whether it's because they're just in it for the sex and don't really care about "how we are," or because they look up to us as older & more experienced I know my last BF was considerably younger than me - I think he appreciated that I didn't keep him on a leash I think that stereotype reverses as we age - and as we age it's the men who more often want us on a leash for some reason - but it drives me nuts but despite an attraction to some younger guys, I don't like what the kid in the blue hat up there said - I appreciate his honesty, but I'm not looking for a younger guy in the terms/way that he described but knowing that he is accurately describing the perspective of younger men- in at least some cases - makes me very cautious where they are concerned so at this point I don't really have an age preference. I never really did - I think I just fell in w/ younger men a lot because of the freedom thing hopefully you will be able to vent and put the issue w/ your ex BF behind u. You know what they say the best distraction is, of course??? 
I don't have an age preference either...just seems that I am more attracted to younger guys because guys my age both look and act SO MUCH older than me! I'm digging the late 20s to mid 30s range now. I share commonalities there...besides sex! I didn't much care for blue hat guy's comments either, and really, that hasn't been my experience. My 20yo ex-bf was just in awe of me as a person. Yes, he looked up to me as someone who had life experiences that he could learn from...sexually and in every other way. And we shared a lot. It's all about the connection and if there is a connection, age doesn't matter one bit. I'm doing great today after last night's emotional $hit. I'm going to be done all of this processing in the next three weeks. I don't think I really need a distraction. I need to go through exactly what I'm doing in order to come out on the other side and be ready for what comes next... to find someone that I connect with, build a friendship, and let it blossom if it does so. I DO want a relationship, but I want a good relationship for a change. 
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Topic:
Love Notes - part 2
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Wow. I love this sharing of emotion. I read some powerful stuff. Lots of heartbreak along with the love. I'm in the heartbreak space too.
My note to DR: I've been crying off and on for the past four hours while going through this closure processing. Of course, you're not aware of that. You never did understand my feelings. You certainly never gave them any validity. But I've begun my closure finally. You already have yours. And though you don't wish to cooperate for me to have mine, the goal will be achieved with or without your cooperation. I will get what I need. I will process you and put you into a box. And you will be stuck in the attic. I have a lot of work to do to put you into the attic, but I'm committed to that now. As for your refusal to provide me that one small token to allow our emotional parting, I guess I'll be seeing you in court. This WILL turn out the way that it's supposed to. You hurt me when we were together. You used me when we were together. I will not allow you to continue to use me. You have no ownership rights over me. I will get my physical token that I require, whether I have to get help or not. And I will be sure that we will be severed, in ALL ways. When you are not able to hurt me anymore, in ANY way, I will be done with you. |
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I most certainly keep the "family" thing in mind when dealing with these younger guys. I have met many in this age range (late 20s to mid 30s) that have decided they don't want kids. They tend to be outdoorsy types that like to go camping, hiking, and stuff...which is the kind of guy I like too. So we'll just see. I'm not worried about ANYTHING right now. There are men floating about EVERYWHERE. I'm focusing on me and my forward movement on my life path. Everything will be the way it should...eventually. Just not gonna stress over any of it anymore. Not worth it. Life is easier this way. yup - I like to just enjoy them too. I guess I am just more careful now before becoming intimate because what I am looking for has changed - well that's not true - what Ima lookin' for has remained the same. but FINALLY after being single for 10+ years - I have a better idea of what to look for in a man that parallels what it is I want in a man - for relationship material I may have gone too far the other way with the pendulum because I haven't really been involved w/ anyone in the last 2 yrs, but it's something I needed to do - had a couple of bad experiences - as we all usually do - I'm not crying in my beer - just dealing with it...in my way. I wish I had your self assuredness Well, my self-assuredness isn't so sure all the time. I absolutely KNOW without a doubt that I WILL BE FINE. It doesn't mean it's always easy. I'm not ready for a relationship yet. I finally fu%cking realized that! I have some housecleaning to do. In more ways than one. Tonight I went through a horrendous 3-4 hours of back and forth emails with my ex-bf (the 40yo I lived with until July of last year) to try to get MY closure on that. He is refusing to provide me with one thing that I asked for, something that I definitely have a right to. I was cordial, even fu#cking gracious! But he has a girlfriend now. Even though he was WITH ME a month ago. So he HAS his closure and has moved on. I "moved on" before I had closure, so I haven't moved on. I am ready now though. Not because I want to be able to have a relationship or feel better about myself. I need it so that I can focus all of my energies on the opportunities that are being presented to me, so I can move my entire life forward. And he's just being a pri*ck because he can. Because he's not still groveling in his depression...the way I had to deal with him for a fu&cking year WHILE I supported him...financially, emotionally, and every other way. I encouraged him with writing his novel, then it was his art, then his photography. He never had a real job. But I didn't give him enough attention. For fu%cks sake! OMG, I'm exhausted from my venting. But I did process A LOT tonight, on my own, moving forward, and I AM FINE. Somebody somewhere has to have the capacity to love me as I deserve and for who I am. Ahhh...that was quite cathartic. |
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I most certainly keep the "family" thing in mind when dealing with these younger guys. I have met many in this age range (late 20s to mid 30s) that have decided they don't want kids. They tend to be outdoorsy types that like to go camping, hiking, and stuff...which is the kind of guy I like too. So we'll just see.
I'm not worried about ANYTHING right now. There are men floating about EVERYWHERE. I'm focusing on me and my forward movement on my life path. Everything will be the way it should...eventually. Just not gonna stress over any of it anymore. Not worth it. Life is easier this way. |
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Topic:
Love Notes - part 2
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Swirling all around me like butterflies, yet all refuse to land - unlike the butterflies. The butterflies do not fear me, yet all men do.
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I understand what you mean. Guys that age don't always mellow into the relationship - in about 10 years he'd be more likely to do so - jmho - and of course there are exceptions I ended things w/ my younger guy too - but it really was not because of our age difference. It was because I really didn't feel he had the capacity to love me - one of those odd things where I carried the relationship, he tended to wander and be not as serious about us as a couple until confronted with losing me (as a lover not as a friend - we will always be friends, I think) but by then my mind was made up & he was unusually immature in some ways - so I knew that his big panic over losing me would be over in a day and if I changed my mind and went back to him - well, he did not have the maturity to keep promises he made - like to basically be a better boyfriend. kinda sad, but I really don't think he could have done it. but I wish him well. I hope u get ur life back on track! these men , drive us half crazy loving them Yep, sounds about the same. How old was he? I'm talking to a 27yo now...been texting like crazy for a few days, lots in common, and really looking forward to a meet up SOON, I hope. I'm still dealing with my past and present colliding. Last night, a friend (we were more than friends, but I wanted to keep him as my friend and just acknowledge that the rest of the relationship was not satisfying to me)...anyway, he came by and we had a great evening together, talking and getting caught up. Now, this guy is 48. When I casually mentioned talking to this other guy, he up and left. I was like whatever. Then the past returned in another form too...32yo that I dated when he was 28. He contacted me last night and again tonight and asked me to go away for an overnight getaway. I'm not opposed to the idea really. But I think he's gonna flake too. So who knows what I'm doing on my kid free night! Bunch of flakes in my life now, past and present! LOL |
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Love Notes - part 2
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strange days indeed. i accept and appreciate every opportunity with which i am presented.
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Love Notes - part 2
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as i was writing my final text to you tonight, i almost typed "i miss you" but thought twice about it and did not. how strange is it that i should miss you when we have not yet met?
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Topic:
Love Notes - part 2
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Just a reminder about this thread... (updated...it's evolution of the thread!)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This is a thread to write love notes. Secret or not so secret, it makes no difference. Express the love in your heart in here! Who's on YOUR mind? What would you like to say to them right now? Share here. Let the love flow. Friends, family, romantic partners, companions, whoever. Share the love! Oh, and I'd like to state to all that "Love Notes" don't have to be mushy things. Love encompasses an entire range of emotions and we are not always happy with the ones that we love. I feel that a "love note" is any written communication of any sort, even if we are expressing negative emotions. Communication is a key component to love. If we are communicating about feelings related to any person we love in any capacity, that is a "love note." 
Please feel free to post/share any thoughts/feelings related to any of the people you love. Do remember that love is respectful. Thank you, and I hope that you enjoy the thread. ~Dina~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ |
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Love Notes - part 2
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Just a reminder about this thread... (updated...it's evolution of the thread!)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This is a thread to write love notes. Secret or not so secret, it makes no difference. Express the love in your heart in here! Who's on YOUR mind? What would you like to say to them right now? Share here. Let the love flow. Friends, family, romantic partners, companions, whoever. Share the love! Oh, and I'd like to state to all that "Love Notes" don't have to be mushy things. Love encompasses an entire range of emotions and we are not always happy with the ones that we love. I feel that a "love note" is any written communication of any sort, even if we are expressing negative emotions. Communication is a key component to love. If we are communicating about feelings related to any person we love in any capacity, that is a "love note."
Please feel free to post/share any thoughts/feelings related to any of the people you love. Do remember that love is respectful. Thank you, and I hope that you enjoy the thread. ~Dina~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ |
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Topic:
Love Notes - part 2
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I'm working through my past and present colliding and am doing a lot of processing. Pardon me while I post random things to numerous people who are not here.
Oh, and I'd like to state to all that "Love Notes" don't have to be mushy things. Love encompasses an entire range of emotions and we are not always happy with the ones that we love. I feel that a "love note" is any written communication of any sort, even if we are expressing negative emotions. Communication is a key component to love. If we are communicating about feelings related to any person we love in any capacity, that is a "love note."
Please feel free to post/share any thoughts/feelings related to any of the people you love. Do remember that love is respectful. Thank you, and I hope that you enjoy the thread. ~Dina |
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MILFs & Younger Men
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This was the biggest age difference I've ever experienced. I'm 43 and he's 20. He pursued me. I went in with no expectations. He fell in love with me. I fell in love with him. But it's difficult relationship wise if either party thinks about the age difference. We had a blast together and the sex was fabulous. He was so eager to please. And so easy to please too. 
well sorry to hear that it's done for you guys - sounds like you had a good thing going - but I can understand why either one of you might want to step back - it sounds like you guys fell in love pretty intensely...and you know sometimes - more than not - guys especially younger - tend to get cold feet B4 getting serious and from what you have said - he might not be sure if you want to get serious do u miss him? i miss some things, but i definitely do need a break to force myself to focus on other parts of my life. |
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Topic:
Love Notes - part 2
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In your face, all of you who have hurt me!
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I could never be a MILF or a cougar. I prefer men my age as not only are they sexy but fantastic lovers. Fantastic lovers come in all ages, I think. 20 and 40 were both fantastic. Well, haven't been with any 20 year olds since I was 20 but I know men my age know how to push my buttons. This was the biggest age difference I've ever experienced. I'm 43 and he's 20. He pursued me. I went in with no expectations. He fell in love with me. I fell in love with him. But it's difficult relationship wise if either party thinks about the age difference. We had a blast together and the sex was fabulous. He was so eager to please. And so easy to please too.
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I think I'm going to up my age requirement. These really young ones are making me crazy. How's everyone doing? how did the late night talk go? Is he driving you crazy? We had an alright night. He spent the night, but it wasn't how we were before. Yes, he drives me crazy with his selfish little boyness. But others are driving the crazy train as well, and not all of them are young! I guess ***** do come in all sizes and ages! funny. how it is. with my younger BF it was the boyishness that attracted me - not immaturity but coltishness, I guess - was so cute...but when he would step into that behavior at serious times, ya....there were a few times that I shared your feelings Well, I think my 20yo Thomas and I are about done. I'm not sure what changed...must have been something going on in his life. I haven't seen or really talked to him since last week. Of course, I could get a text at any time that says he misses me. But I'm stepping back for a while. I have a lot to sort out myself right now. |
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I'm thinking that the fine men on this site are too far away from me to do me any good!
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Topic:
Valentine's Day....
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I'll be alone. Again. Actually was madly in love last year. I think that was the ONLY year I've had a Valentine including all of the years of marriage. I hate V-Day. Wish I could sleep through it and have it be done.
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Topic:
MILFs & Younger Men
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I could never be a MILF or a cougar. I prefer men my age as not only are they sexy but fantastic lovers. Fantastic lovers come in all ages, I think. 20 and 40 were both fantastic. |
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MILFs & Younger Men
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I think I'm going to up my age requirement. These really young ones are making me crazy. How's everyone doing? how did the late night talk go? Is he driving you crazy? We had an alright night. He spent the night, but it wasn't how we were before. Yes, he drives me crazy with his selfish little boyness. But others are driving the crazy train as well, and not all of them are young! I guess ***** do come in all sizes and ages! |
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I'm thinking about how I'm going to be alone this year for V-day, how last V-day I wasn't...I was madly in love and received the most perfect gift, how he came back a few weeks ago only to break my heart again, and how he'll be spending V-day with some other chick just a few weeks after being with me! F%cker!
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