Hi((( Dave))) :flowerforyou
nice to see you
Don't give up you just never know

who out there like me 50 something and lonely?
I just cant find mr right

Why aren't you the cheerful type...

couple of things you could try to remain positive:

Make a pact with yourself to be responsible for choices that you make that affect your healing.

I am responsible for the victim thoughts which stay in my mind.

I am responsible for denying what I know to be true about myself.

I am responsible for the people with whom I surround myself.

I am responsible for remaining in victim beliefs.

I let my victim thoughts go.

I affirm that I am healthy and whole.

while it may not be easy, once you have stopped being the victim you can be the hero of your own life.

good luck!!!

We want good thing for you Dave.
And for you to take care of yourself!

i was single for 10 years befor i met my wife through yahoo personals. it was a rough time, but my secret to success was to be ok with being single. loveing yourself and being comfortable with living alone is a key ingredent. i spent 4 of those 10 years living with my siberian husky in the mountains of colorado in a cabin. i learned to be alone, learned patience, learned how to cook good healthy meals for myself. i learned how to get up at 3 in the morning and shovel tons of snow off a gravel driveway till dawn so i could go to work. i learn how to sew buttons on my shirts. i learned how to be a deadly shot with a bow. i hiked at 10,000 feet above sea level for hours on end, i learned how to make brownies at that level by adding extra flour. there is so much stuff to think about, besides a mate.

boys, get real about yourselves and stop being such big babies. life is too short to worry about having a mate. your best mate is yourself! learn to live alone, then and then only if your blessed by God, the right mate will someday walk around the corner and there she will be!
stop your wineing, want some cheese with that wine? "men will be men if men can learn how to be men".
libraleo

Take the advice or continue to wander...it is rather simple really, you are simply not taking anyone's advice. Hopefully you get a brighter outlook on things, and you find a lady that you care for and equally she cares for you back...however moaning over and over on this forum no matter what is said isn't going to help you.

Ya know what Marley, sometimes friends HAS to be enough. When we lose our spouses, friends and family HAVE to be enough to sustain us. And friends is ALWAYS a good place to start.

I already told him. He'll listen to a female though. Males opinions usually don't hold much water in these circumstances

Dave, are there social events you could attend? things at a community center, dances etc? After 50 years surely there are people you could go grab a bite to eat with, or catch a movie with from time to time?

You should've forgotten about the woman in Kalamazoo after a day passed with no reply. The ratio for men to women is insane in these things. There is like twenty guys for every woman. We are like products at Walmart in here man. Don't judge your sucess with women by how well you do in here. It will kill your ego. You're only as attractive as you feel. I've seen younger and much more handsome days but I still walk and talk like I'm the S***