Whoa Red6Mist is Lawgiver. Son of a gun, no wonder they seemed so much alike!!

I am sorry to hear that men your age are messing with you. To be honest; there lots of messed up people these days which is why I can't be bothered to date. I wish you luck with your guy and I hope you feel well soon.

My question is more of, do you actually exist if this is my reality I've created in my mind? Do I exist in your imagination? It may be your world I'm a part of.

Gotta admit I'm somewhat surprised by some of the shallow arguments, like "many young men know the music I listened to back then".

It's not about knowing the same things, it's about having experienced things in life.

We can know what happened at Woodstock, we can simply look it up online. But unless you were actually there, you cannot really say what it was like, what it felt like.

This principle goes for deep things that one experiences in life as well.
Someone 20 years younger can never have the same life experience and wisdom that comes with it.
Apart from that, age defines how one deals with things, what one wants and needs in life etc.

If you feel okay with a much younger partner, nothing wrong with that. But we all are different.
To me such a relationship wouldn't feel like a mature relationship either, simply because you aren't equals. You can't be equals as you differ in experience too much.
I want a mature relationship with a mature man who understands life, the universe and everything the way I do. Meaning, not too much younger or older.
And the other side of things: if you are 20 years older, you cannot keep up with him. You can think/want/pretend you can, but get real! You honestly think you still can go clubbing till the wee hours of the morning?

Weird that no one seems to get the reality of what Navygirl is saying.
I totally agree.

Not sure how many more ways I can say this. I don't have anything in common with someone 20 years younger. You can't seriously think someone who is 20 years younger has the same life experience as me. I could list pages of reasons of why that age difference wouldn't work for me. I do have to consider my public image as I do high profile volunteer work for the military and with kids. This would not be acceptable to be seen dating a younger man as well I would feel embarrassed. To me; it just feels creepy. As I said I am not stupid. I have met, spent time with these guys and they simply aren't mature enough for me. Hey; if it works for you by all means date who you want but I am simply not wasting my time with a younger man.

Yes, exactly. The older women have it figured out what sort of lifestyle they want and when I tell them that I'm still a student at forty four that doesn't usually go down too well with them. I'm not saying that they necessarily want you to finance their lifestyle but they are at least going to want you to pay your way and they tend to want stuff like a cottage in the country or a trip around the world. Usually a middle aged woman is looking towards her retirement and she's done with bringing up kids and has those sorts of priorities and ambitions. I actually had an ex telling me that she didn't want to be with me because she didn't think that I could look after her in her old age.

I've been with an older woman and she nagged me like she was my mother. Never had to put up with that from a younger woman.
I suppose that it is flattering when a younger woman takes a shine to you and it's nice having a girlfriend that respects you and actually values your opinion. I mean, they still just do what they want anyway but at least they listen to you if you have more maturity and life experience.

Call it a midlife crisis if you like. I met a girl half my age recently and it was like reliving my youth a bit and I had been feeling stuck in a rut. I was single and it wasn't a case of trading in for a newer model. It's got nothing to do with wanting to show her off to my friends or not finding older women attractive. It's nice if they do have all their own teeth though.

I find younger women easier going anyway and it seems to me that the older ones are more interested in what you own and what sort of lifestyle you can provide them with.

Look, both of you are wrong. The chart reflects this from both sides. the earth is not heading for ice age and its not heading for global warming. Scientist do NOT have "facts" when it comes to nature. No one does. Sometimes one will get lucky based on readings they measure but truth be told, scientist are just like weathermen, they can give a best guess only. How many times almost everyday do weathermen get it wrong? Alot. So put down the big sticks and worry more about making your lives more positive and happy then all this doom and gloom. Truth is, we will all be dead of desease, accidents, murder or old age before ANYTHING that changes the earths surface will affect us to extinction. Have a good day.

Can you prove it to me? :)