What do men want?

That's a rather broad topic to say the least.

All men, just like all women, want something different. It could be
purely physical attractions, or mental, or emotional... the list goes
on.

For every different type of personality that's out there, there's a man
who wants that. And there are many different personalities out there!

I want someone who can turn me on mentally, emotionally, physically,
intellectually... I want a woman who has everything (to include a brain,
tongue, and "spine").

But being 25, you can't find that without her wanting to get drunk all
the time. So I look for older women. Problem is most older women want
an older man, or someone closer to their own age.

I'm not talking 40s and 50s. More like late 20s to early 30s.

I can't tell you what "men" want. I can only tell you what I want.
Anyone who says "Men only want this..." is lying. That's just like
saying "Women only want this." Not all women are in to muscle-bound
sports freaks who have lots of loose cash, flashy cars, and a big house.
Many women want someone who's not the arrogant showoff described in the
last sentence.

If you're not having any luck meeting men where you normally go to meet
them, try changing venues. Instead of bars, nightclubs, and lounges
(just as common examples), why not book stores, coffee houses, or the
supermarket?

If he doesn't have any kids in tow, no ring, but a shopping cart full of
food, that says that he's most likely single, kids are grown (if they
exist), and he knows how to cook... for you. :)

A "nice guy" generally can't do anything on his own. He wants your
approval/validation. I've been with women where they made me the center
of their universe. The novelty wears off quick and you move on to
something else; not necessarily "better."

Not everyone you fall for is a "player." It's just how you perceive it.
I'm not a player, but that's the reputation I've gotten from several
women I've dated because I bailed out after finding out they had kids
(they said they didn't).

I don't have a problem with a woman who has a kid. But if she's gonna
lie about something that big... who's to say she's not hiding something
else?

Back to the topic at hand.

If you're attracting the "players" or guys who just generally "play
games" then you need to reframe what's going on and take control from
the start.

Write out what qualities you want in a man. Then write out what you are
not attracted to. Memorize this list and constantly check it off during
your interactions to see if he measures up.

If not, end the meeting politely and move on before it's too late. Many
people just don't know how to say "no" to something they're unsure of.

Recently met someone online who seems to attract guys who are only
looking for a one night stand or a brief fling. She's tired of being
used and is now doing something about it. I wish her the best of luck
in her search for that nice guy who has a backbone.

Believe me, we're few and far between.

Time for the ego-trip!

I'd have to say me. But that's just my opinion! :D