Point well taken my dear Watson, I mean my dear Iam4u and the readjustment suggested had been completed.
Cheers! and thank you.

My dear Ruth, I am very sorry that this happened to you, most women in your case deserve better. Unfortunately in some cases (maybe even most cases) you may be right but there is always an exception to every rule. The way I read your post you simply want to warn and reason the forum, this based on your own experience and that’s ok. But as the man once said keeping score of old scores and scars, considering to getting even, can and might make a person less than she or he is.
I saw your profile, you are a lovely women, (that picture with your legs cross in the light bleu dress, nicely provocative) so you can keep on smiling and trust that some of us are what they seem to be. I guess you are what you seem to be aren’t you?

Once again thank you all for the kind and not so kind words that were said on their forum. I would like to thank Folief for his comments, I do love to talk to women but the only people I play chess with are men, it would be fun to match wits with a lady for a change. I would also like to thank Calleigh for setting me straight, Xenomorphez for ..well being herself, Singmesweet for her two cents, Seamac for making me laugh and Shasta for stating facts that are sometimes very a propos, (and unless you are really sincere and true to yourself and your better half you don’t go meet anyone), basically everyone who participated.

So I wish all of you A Happy New Year and remember: New Year's Day… now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual. lol

Your point is well taken and I wanted to send you a message yesterday following what you said about guys only wnting to ....you. The fact that I lied when I we wrote married to please the forum when I am divorced stopped me from emailing you, so I will say this, I am sorry that the only men in your life only wanted to see that one side of you. You must be a lovely girl and you do deserve better that that! As for physically making friends on the sight I don't know how, or which button to press, I know what is obvious for one might not be for all

Well after reading all your replies, apparently what is obvious for some is incomprehensible for others. I have found that the more one tries to explain onesself and be sincere and opened, the more one is misjudged and condemned. Apparently friends here just want to be right and judge and its their right to do so.

I have friends to say Hi like everyone does, but I've seen what friends can do. It was said that the road to Hell was paved with good intentions, mostly from friends. Well I don't need those kinds of friends in my life and They certainly don't need me,

I leave you with this though from an 19th century American poet named Walt Whitman ( name that I first learned about on an old TV series Room 222 in which Michael Constatntine played the principal Seymoor Kaufman at Walt Whithman High ), in which he was heard to say that I no doubt deserved my enemies, but I don't believe I deserved my friends!

Lol, yes I guess you would say that Pink Lady, and you have your right to your opinion.
I hope you and your boyfriend have a Happy New year and make as many new friends as you can as a wise women once said: Never refuse any advance of friendship, for if nine out of ten bring you nothing, one alone may repay you.

But then again that might be BS too...

This is from Carole, I do agree with you my dear. He won't stop me seing friends I have had for a long time men and women, why should I

Well my friend I guess it would seem odd to you!

This is a reply to : Thank you for stating this. And personally speaking, If in a serious relationship., married or not, why are people seeking 'friends' etc...... whoever you are

I am Mcklintock's girl friend Carole, and I say Ladies, cease to be offended because my boyfreind wants to be your FRIEND, simply because he has always been frank and Honest with me and he has helped me to love myself and accept myself for who I am. He is someone good that is honoest and sincere.

His health issue permits him only to have lady friends. Going out with his use to be friends is out of the question. He use to enjoy a single malt Scoth with the best of them, but his diabetes has stopped him years ago. As far as sex goes, Viagra 100 mg works wonders for him but since he already takes 23 pills a day, he can't take any, what else is left to talk about with the guys, Frenship, music, chess, no with the guys its booze sports **** and ***.

There is no one person more jealous than I but Rick has never given me any reason to be jealous nor will he ever.

So this was my two cents on the matter.

Thank you all for taking the time to write what you really felt about something. It is refreshing to see people so honest and down to earth. Should I find a friend or two I may be back to offer you another opportunity to voice your opinions

Rick

Well then my dear Simgmesweet, you must be right
and I thank you for your input

Point well taken my dear Xenomorphez, thank you.

You will note my dear that I have corrected the heading to married, which is not the truth really, I am divorced and was living alone for several years until I met my girlfriend and her 3 children, the youngest one 11 months old.

My dear Calleigh12
I am sorry about your confusion, I am divorced and living with someone 15 years younger than I. As to going to make freinds with other men, well I am handicapped at the lungs, and a diabetic for 35 years whose legs are unfortuatly starting to be affected,I was forced to retire so I don't go out much, but I can't stop my girlfriend from going to see her friends and relatives.

As for people wishing to only email those nearby, your point is well taken and maybe mine should al so considered, I honestly thought that my profile was clear enough, apparently not.

I thank you for yout input and will try to me more specific. In order to fit better in the group this picture of myself should be most a propos

Good point Lewis, and If I was a liar I guess I would do that, and save me a lot of grief wouldn't I?

Point take my dear Calleigh
If there would have been a heading of living with someone I would have gladly put my X on it and my girl freind knows exactly what I do and with whom I do it with.

Hi my name is Rick, I have been on and off the site and what I would like to find are people to chat with, to play internet chess with, and to be friends with.

I have know a few friends on this site who have found their significant other (and still friends with) and I am very happy for both of them but I would respectfully guess that most women (or men) who will look at a profile, and will see he's (she's) living with someone, or married or whatever, and right away he/she is eliminated while this same person as been looking at pictures and reading profiles for the last year 2 or 3 years and unfortunately have not found the right partner.

Most of you will say ¨ With all due respect Sir this is a dating site is it not? ¨

Yes it is, and it is also a place to make new friends from all over North America. I would have guessed that's what they meant by putting my add under heading ¨Friendships¨ Its hard to make new friends in all of North America when the setting is at ¨ to email me you must live within 50 miles ¨ from where I live. I guess many or most that go under the heading Frienship really mean ¨lets be friends first and then we will see...

Well I always figured that was a given! I have recently communicated with Charles (the admnistrator who is a pretty nice guy) and I was thinking that could it be a good idea if maybe one heading would be added that would mean ¨looking for a friend nothing else ¨, I don't know how about you?

Basically, to meet new people via email & messenger. I have met several great people who found themselves great matches but we still remain friends although we don't talk as much for obvious reasons.