see now I grew up in the seventies..in the "free to be you and me" generation..where little Tommy can have a doll or Little Becky can play with trucks..I understood then that the message as a kid or parent was that we did not always have to keep our kids in these gender roles to such an extent that the girls always had to wear little dresses and a boy was never allowed to cry.
Since that time we have seen girls getting into sports more and even joining the boy's teams. We have seen women joining the military and doing more than just answering phones and taking messages. We have seen more up and coming young ladies going into fields that were once considered male dominant professions. We have seen families where Dad is the one doing the household chores and taking the kids to little league because his job has the flexibility to do so. Men (as we found out) do indeed have emotions and are capable of nurturing and childcare. Men can be teachers of young children, nurses, counselors..fields that were female dominant at one time.


but ya see even though I have no issues with our little girls wearing blue jeans and climbing trees and playing with tonka trucks and our little boys learning how to cook and mend the hole in the knee of their blue jeans ..I have a real issue as a parent with this gender neutral thing when it is taken to the extreme..what is next?

are we going to take the boy and girl labels off public restrooms?

free to be

I think the term you are looking for is called a "gusset" or "gusset beam", or "gusset brace".

Or a "buttress".

Of course it is...

Has anyone seen my *****?.....