I agree with most things said here. My point was based on profile pics. Not having a good camera, wrong angle was taken, etc..

Yes there are tolerance limits even in real life-- but pics sometimes don't do people justice.

If real life works the way people say then why does an ugly, fat women/ or man get with someone who is better looking then they are.?
I work in public stores and see it alot.

It's the inside that counts. Not just profile pics to make quick judgments.

Good point. :)

Believe people have to be honest. If a profile pic turns you off in any way most would not respond to a first contact by someone.

Like I said, there are tolerance levels but-- are people judging profile pics first before knowing the person?

Unfortunately on dating sites or others all we can do is post pics. We can also fill out a profile.

Real life meeting seems to be a thing of the past.

Thanks. My point was based on profile pictures and whether or not someone would respond to them. Think my post asked good questions. :)

What do people think about "if the profile pic turns me off- then I'm not responding." Fast judgments are made?

What if the person doesn't have access to a good camera? Do people judge by pics first? I'm guessing the answer will be "yes" . Pics first.

Probably the next thing people look at is the age? Then possibly location is looked at? If people go this far then the profile might be skimmed?

I agree there is a tolerance level. Meaning looks too fat or skinny. Face may not be handsome or pretty. But are people loosing out or not giving someone a chance? What about what's inside?

I believe meeting in real life is the only way to know if either side is interested. Pics can be deceiving whether good or bad.

What's your opinion?

So far about 60 replies. :) Forgot to mention @ 970+ views.

Still somewhat new to the forums. It seems pics have to be hosted on a separate website.

So I can't put a pic up from my hard drive? If I can how?

Trust can also take time to gain. I try to trust someone until I discover reasons not to. Hopefully I will know how much and how long I can.

I heard this before: Assume means you make an a$$ out of me and you.

I normally don't assume anything. I Wait and see. Expectations may be something else but I normally don't have alot of those either.

Hope is something I might leans towards more than anything else. Then again high hopes can be disappointing.

I try to use common sense and take time to know someone.

Where can I test to see if pics and html codes work? The help -> bbc code topic seems closed.

For cattails. :) How suiting this screenname is when your sign is a cougar. :)

The Cougar

What a coincidence. lol Thanks.

march 10

At least we get to see what they are like.

I'm in Jax

What was the reason he gave for the ex visitig him?? Why would an ex do that? Things to think about OP.

Are we assuming things? Dumped him? Maybe he left her for good reasons.

When I suggested to remain friends I didn't mean you should be calling him or expecting anything from him. It is possible for opposite sexes to be friends.

At least he was being honest with you. I commend him for that. If it were me I'd still try to remain friends. At the same time be aware nothing may happen between you and him. But you never know and time will tell.

Does the ex-gf have a new bf or seeing anyone? The one you like broke up with the ex probably for a good reason. He may remember the reasons eventually.

I'd say be friends with him but don't prevent yourself from meeting new men and dating them.

If 2 people enjoy being together there are alot of free things to do.