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Topic: in sex experienced partner
Mechanics's photo
Tue 01/18/22 12:23 PM
My thoughts Always experience best asset ..different age making different feelings

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Tue 01/18/22 12:56 PM
Experience in other areas of life is a benefit.....in a relationship, its not. I could never be with anyone with previous experience, as to me it's a lack of self-respect to have sex outside of marriage.

Ava Adore's photo
Tue 01/18/22 03:14 PM
Experience in other areas of life is a benefit.....in a relationship, its not. I could never be with anyone with previous experience, as to me it's a lack of self-respect to have sex outside of marriage.

You say you could never be with someone with previous experience - what if they were married before?


SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 01/18/22 04:19 PM

Experience in other areas of life is a benefit.....in a relationship, its not. I could never be with anyone with previous experience, as to me it's a lack of self-respect to have sex outside of marriage.

So you're a virgin then I assume as I take it this applies to you just the same.

And like Ava I'm curious if the same applies if someone has been married?

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Wed 01/19/22 11:48 AM
Couldn't have a relationship with anyone with a previous marriage, as it's virtually certain that that would have involved sex. I don't believe in sex before marriage, or living/holidaying together before marriage.

Probably means I'll be alone forever, but if that's my fate......

Rod's photo
Wed 01/19/22 11:48 AM
I had sex at 13

cleve's photo
Wed 01/19/22 11:50 AM

Experience in other areas of life is a benefit.....in a relationship, its not. I could never be with anyone with previous experience, as to me it's a lack of self-respect to have sex outside of marriage.


AT YOUR AGE YOU COME UP WITH THIS....YOUR A LOT

OLDER THAN YOUR EMOTIONAL AGE...I EXPECT THIS FROM

A NAIVE 18 YEAR OLD .....

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Wed 01/19/22 12:11 PM
To me sex should only be within a committed relationship, and to me that's marriage.
Call me old fashioned, but that's been the rule I've lived to all y life.

If I ever get married (which is very doubtful I know), it will be for life. If it ends in divorce, then I'd elect to stay single, without a social life.

If there's one thing covid taught me it's that I'm self sufficient, and can live without social contact.

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Wed 01/19/22 12:13 PM
I've spoken to a few women on here (other than the usual fakes and scammers), but never got past a few messages. I'd rather not waste anyone's time.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 01/19/22 12:31 PM

I've spoken to a few women on here (other than the usual fakes and scammers), but never got past a few messages. I'd rather not waste anyone's time.

No offense, but that is probably for the best.
It's quite weird to say you only approve of sex within a marriage, but if someone has been married and for instance lost their partner you seem to feel they're toxic???
You're contradicting yourself.

To each their own, but like you said yourself, probably best to not waste anyone's time.

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Wed 01/19/22 12:35 PM
Unfortunately anyone who's been married wouldn't be compatible with me......I think marriage is for life, so to me if I were to end up divorced, it would not be possible for me to have another relationship.

To me it's about self-respect. Too many people just jump into bed as soon as they can, so it means it obviously doesn't have any meaning for them.

At least I have my work to keep me busy, and as I'm never in a relationship, no one can tell me I work too much!

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Wed 01/19/22 12:36 PM
I wouldnt class them as toxic, but as soon as a woman says she's had a previous relationship, that limits anything to just friendship.

Ava Adore's photo
Wed 01/19/22 01:55 PM
What if a woman's previous sexual experience was related to trauma or assault against her will? Would that matter to you?

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Wed 01/19/22 01:57 PM
Unfortunately yes.......I have to stick to my rules.
IF (somehow) I did fall for someone with previous sexual experience, it would have to be a totally celibate relationship, in separate rooms....

I'm probably too old for anything sexual anyway, so I'm not even sure why I'm here!

Ava Adore's photo
Wed 01/19/22 04:38 PM
Unfortunately yes.......I have to stick to my rules.
IF (somehow) I did fall for someone with previous sexual experience, it would have to be a totally celibate relationship, in separate rooms....

I'm probably too old for anything sexual anyway, so I'm not even sure why I'm here!

So you would never have sex with someone who has experience, even if you decide to be in a relationship with her?

Maybe that's what's best for you - a platonic relationship.

cleve's photo
Thu 01/20/22 06:14 AM
ITS BEST YOU BE ALONE.....NO WOMAN COULD NEVER GET

CLOSE TO YOU, YOUR MIND CLOSED...A RELATIONSHIP

EBBS AND FLOWS , IT CAN NOT GROW WITH DAM'S

BLOCKING ITS GROWTH......

Ryan 's photo
Thu 01/20/22 09:16 AM
you should get it while you can Dave, you are not getting any younger

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Thu 01/20/22 10:04 AM
Haha...definitely not getting any younger, but I still have my values, and unfortunately I'm a one-woman man seeking a one-man woman.
I know that once I passed 20 the chances of finding anyone who has the same values as me dramatically fell, but we all have our own rules and principles.

As for my mind being closed, it's not, it's just an issue of respect and morals (and health) for me. I've controlled myself and refrained from sex until I'm in a serious relationship, so is it wrong to expect the same from others?

It's not like I'm imposing rules on others that I'm not living to.

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Thu 01/20/22 12:25 PM
To me it's just a preference...like some people prefer non-smokers, or people without tattoos.

Some people prefer the same sex, or the opposite sex, or one I used to work with could never date an accountant.

Everyone has preferences.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 01/20/22 11:22 PM

To me it's just a preference...like some people prefer non-smokers, or people without tattoos.

Some people prefer the same sex, or the opposite sex, or one I used to work with could never date an accountant.

Everyone has preferences.

I don't see a problem with your preferences. They're yours, not mine.
We all listen to the beat of different drummers.
What works for me doesn't have to work for you and vice versa.

I'd caution about your decision tho.
As you get older and older things in life change and value systems accomodate those changes.

I believe its best to try to refrain from saying "Always" and "Never". My dad told me that when I was a kid and its true.

I don't know anything about you which justifies your preference but I really don't need to.
However, If you are still young and viral, the drive to reproduce can get overwhelming.

If you are already a 40 year old virgin I can see how your preferences might hold.
If you've never tasted a chocolate bar you will have less need to try it, the older you get but as you get older you might start to wonder if you were missing something really good just because you don't like the paper its wrapped in.

But...to each their own. As long as YOU don't have a problem with it, go for it, stay a virgin.
Just don't delude yourself that anyone else is a 40 year old virgin too, Especially on a Free social/dating website.

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