If you're not ready for love don't start

OK, pal
Just keep your distance

Right

Start what?

Other than that...
Why not?
Are you of the belief that interacting with other people is no way a catalyst to foster or engender personal change, "growth," understanding, or anything?

Are you of the belief there is some sort of manual or mechanic people can read or go to that will "fix" them to be "ready for love" if they're not?

Also, practically speaking, there's no such thing as "ready" for love.

There are only different degrees of personally struggling against allowing "love" to develop within, towards a specific someone else.

Sometimes people are forcing themselves to struggle harder against bonding, sometimes they struggle harder due to valuing something more and the struggle is more of a reaction to that.
Most walls that people create aren't just to keep people out, but themselves restrained.

Of note, if they're telling you they aren't ready to love they are at best (if not outright trying to break up with, or distance themselves from, you because they aren't that into you. Setting boundaries on the relationship trying to keep getting what they want from you without the risks, costs, consequences, or responsibility. They're getting what they "really" want.

¿Que?

You're absolutely right if you're referring to a serious relationship.

I am not ready for true love, but I do need a lot of practice. Any women want to practice with me just for fun?

I believe in equality and let women dump me when they are done and bored with me. I don't mind if she just uses me for sex and maybe be friends.

Your thinking is full of holes. You cannot practice the feeling of love. You can work on making the feeling stronger. You can use a person for sex but if you use a person for friendship you certainly are no friend. Friends do not do that to each other.

@ Poetry.....

Many

Well said

Backing Poetry all the way !
Well said

What are you talking about? I love being activity partners with women who may enjoy goading me to practice the wheel pose nude just so she can help me get really really Good at it.

Easy to self-righteously say, but rarely useful.

Most people have to find out after they try, that they "aren't ready."

Plus, plenty of us are very much "ready for love," we just aren't ready for what YOU have in mind for it. "You" meaning the general "you," not attacking anyone specific.


Something I've seen happen many times, is that two people meet, both eager for something real and long lasting, and each attracted to the other at least initially.

But I also keep seeing that people have something like "trajectories." They often don't even notice that they have direction and force behind their hopes, they just feel the energy of it.

And so they jump in, when someone seems inviting. But if their "trajectories" are different, they'll end up causing problems for each other, by the way they each try to make everything work.

And then, I very often see one of them angrily say "you weren't ready for love, you shouldn't have led me on."

I looked at a man's profile, it said he was separated looking for marriage.

I think he's putting his cart Before the horse .

If only,

we could find nice girls with love on here.

Dear OP:
Gosh, I think everyone is ready for love. Whether they are ready for the particular relationship youre looking for, I sure dunno. We all have some match that suits us. You just cant force it.

OP James - I agree with your original statement.

My understanding is that love is not a state of mind or emotional reaction which both has the tendency to change. Love is the act of sacrifice. If you truly love anything or anyone, you will sacrifice when all of your being and existence itself says not to.