So do I have some fatal flaw about my profile or do people just sort of not reply much to anybody?

it takes time.

Hey, you might live up to your name, but wouldn't call that a fatal flaw! Another pix or two and a lot more development of your profile. A woman is going to want to know more about you than the fact you're an accomplished origami guy...and you have a flare for bizarre music. Might want to quantify and /or qualify that! Tell the gals something about you...interests, hobbies, give them sime insights into you. And, put it out there what you're looking for in a woman. Be honest...You'll get the responses.
Hang in there...and good luck!

It used to be longer but I decided I didn't like the tone and should trim it down to just the parts that seemed enthusiastic.

I went through every page of the search for people anywhere near me (I've got the range going over state lines a little bit,) mailing just about everyone that weighed less than my handicapped aunt, didn't have children over two years old, and didn't smoke frequently.

I'd estimate that after today I've sent out mail to about 300 people now. Maybe a third of it I took the tone "I think I'm what you are looking for," another third was more "are you what I'm looking for," and the last third was probably just some random question I had about something in their profile.
Do I need some special format in that?

It seems like if I ever do get so much as a date out of this it will be a pyrrhic victory.

just keep trying...

How long? So far the only people that have said they would be interested in seeing me were scammers trying to get me to pay for strip cams or send money to Nigeria.

How many hundreds of people am I supposed to contact before someone says "Oh, meeting people? You mean like what I signed up to this site for? Ok."

LOL dunno...

Dude, this is a free site, and sometimes you get what you pay for. I'm not trying to discourage you, but these things take time. I've been divorced since '97 and still looking. Why don't you kick back and enjoy some threads for abit. Maybe you will run into someone on one of these threads. Wish you all the best bro.

I've tried a few pay sites. If there's some kind of mandatory wink phase a decent number do that but when it comes to actually writing something to each other it's this same story.

Alot of women I check out seem to have "last seen over a month ago" on the top of the profile. Still it could be a numbers game. Hang in there bro, love will find you soon enough and then you'll have to change your whole life around. lol

aian't you guy

you know what they say..


diffrent strokes for diffrent folks

Man, it's not like when you ignite a stove, there's the fire right away....gosh... it takes time....just take it easy and don't rush

o yea what are you doin around 2:47pm tommorrow...dinner for two..then sign the pre nub at 5:00

What part of "I've mailed 300 people" gives people the impression that I signed up yesterday instead of, oh, the year ago you can see right under my picture?

Am I unreasonable to think that zero dates per year is a bit low?

maybe you need to put some swag in your step

I agree give it time and put time into your profile it's a work in progres for alot of us good luck
Ken

Don't dare... I am flying to where you are....

Hi

You should add more pix.

Your essay is ok but I would add a little panache so it's not so perfunctory. If you are that straight forward and dry, by all means, don't change who you are; however, if you can cause a smile or a giggle for the reader you might have more luck. Definitely add more to your essay though.

I'd say about 20% reply rate is average. I've been on the site since January and only went on 3 dates. I don’t know if the lack of success is due to apathy, laziness, or online gigolos trying to play the field. I find that suggestion entertaining though. How pleasuring can an online harem of girls be? Sticky keyboard anyone?

To follow the crowd, it takes time.

Have fun!

So the first thing I asked was if there was how I should change my profile (if people thought that would help.)

MelodyGirl: Thanks, some substance to the suggestions feels much better.

I don't have much of a sense for photography (and although my sister does she hasn't been any help,) so can anyone recommend angles and poses (or should I just put on different clothing and find different backdrops to take essentially the same picture from?)

Sometimes my writing is fantastic but most of the time I just end up rambling about nothing and end up sounding weak and boring. Got any ideas about how I can avoid that?

Okay so time for some brutal honesty if you want some honest feed back

Your Title isn't really attracting for most females

Your interests of video games, computers, internet culture and anime isn't your standard female interests either

Stating that you're only studying biology but dont know why shows a lack of decision making on your part as well as wasting your college education because you really don't know what it is you want to do.

Bizarre music could be anything from Polka to stomping of trash cans would help if you would identify


So, am I being harsh, perhaps but if you're serious about this than you need to put the effort into your profile to reflect that. Common interests to spark conversation is much easier than trying to relate on what may be an obscure topic for her.

Most (and yes I'm generalizing here) women do not want an indecisive man, so to say you're not sure why you're studying your major in college not sure what you want to do for you occupation and that you're basing part of your life off an aptitude test is not coming across as a good thing.

Share more information of who you are and what you do have a female friend help you write it if needed. And if your emails sent out are as vague and short than that may be why you're not seeing results.

But as always this is just my humble opinion

Hang in there and good luck, chat some in the forums and you'll at least meet some interesting people